What’s helped me the last few years is setting a goal I’m not sure I can complete but I know If I give it everything I got then maybe I can. 5 years ago it was getting sober in rehab, sober living. 4 years ago it was just finishing my first marathon. 3 years ago it was hiking the 2200 mile Appalachian Trail. 2 years ago it was having a baby, getting my personal training certification and then that led to me opening my own business. This year it’s training for a sub 3:30 marathon that now has turned in to new goal of 3:20 after 6 months of training. I’m not sure what next year is yet. Maybe to win the Coast Amateur in Golf. I haven’t decided. What I do know is that with each of these goals it made me change. Getting sober lead me to own my past, love myself, and release control. The Appalachian trail made me realize patience and that hurry is a made up thing and I met my partner which lead me to having a baby and family. This lead me home and while training for my second marathon and getting my personal training certification I started using sauna and cold plunge. This led to me opening my business revive and thrive. This year I picked a marathon goal that I didn’t think I could do. To do the training I had to quit vaping, hire a coach and lean in to learning again. This required me to be discipline and consistent and lead me to this group. By picking hard goals I achieved tons of smaller goals and a life I never could have dreamed of 5 years ago. I realized each time I finished a goal that it was still just me sitting with me. The only real change was the change in that person.

I used it today as well!! I asked Samantha to come look at the Christmas lights I was hanging expecting a complement and then she and told me I was hanging them wrong and how I could do it better. … My first thought was to be defensive and say her way wouldn’t work. …instead I stayed calm and listened to her….sure enough I was hanging them wrong. lol. So many of these type instances

I can see these concepts working with my Brother at work as well.

I am grateful for today. I am grateful for all my suffering that gives me the opportunity to see the world and myself the way I do now. I am grateful for my son and Samantha and to be needed by them. I am grateful to love and to be loved.

I’ll be there!