I have a rule that has served me better than any other, and it is not a noble one. Done beats perfect. I learned it by doing the opposite. I have sat on things for months trying to get them exactly right, and the only thing that achieved was that the thing never got made at all. So now I would rather put out the 80% version than nothing. I thought about that again this morning, for a different reason. A lot of men are waiting to be sure before they do anything about their prostate. Sure what the test means. Sure what happens if it finds something. Sure they are ready for the answer. The trouble is that the thing they are waiting to be certain about does not hold still. What happens to a man found with the slow kind of prostate cancer is not what happened in 2010. It changed while people were waiting to feel ready, and the waiting taught them nothing. You will never know enough. Nobody does. I do not, and I have been at this sixteen years. So do the 80% version. Write down one question and take it in with you: if this comes back low risk, what exactly would you watch, how often, and what would make you change the plan? What have you been waiting to feel ready for? https://www.skool.com/prostate-paladin-4886/about

Please welcome Thabit to Prostate Paladin, I am very grateful he is with us! Thabit, if you feel comfortable, please introduce yourself to the community. Prostate Paladin is dedicated to increasing prostate awareness for men and their families. We are doing this to help everyone know and understand the prostate and the impact it can and will have on their lives. . Please make yourself comfortable wherever you are happy. You can browse, open a post, join conversations and more. Please read the important information in the Welcome and Start Here modules in the Classroom. Introduce yourself, your community, keep us up with what is going on there. Prostate Paladin is a safe space - we do not share our stories outside of skool.

Please welcome Craig to Prostate Paladin, I am very grateful he is with us! Craig's community is called The Glucose Reset It is a great place to learn more about regulating glucose in your body. Craig, if you feel comfortable, please introduce yourself to the community. Prostate Paladin is dedicated to increasing prostate awareness for men and their families. We are doing this to help everyone know and understand the prostate and the impact it can and will have on their lives. . Please make yourself comfortable wherever you are happy. You can browse, open a post, join conversations and more. Please read the important information in the Welcome and Start Here modules in the Classroom. Introduce yourself, your community, keep us up with what is going on there. Prostate Paladin is a safe space - we do not share our stories outside of skool.

Something small from this week that I think is bigger than it looks. A man called Ian Tilley, a darts referee in Lincolnshire, went to see his doctor about something that had nothing whatsoever to do with his prostate. They took blood while he was there. His PSA came back at 19.9, and the cancer had already grown out through the capsule. That word threw me when I first read it, so here it is in plain English. The prostate has a thin layer of tissue wrapped around the outside of it, a bit like a skin. That is the capsule. His cancer had grown out through it, which is why they called it stage three. It had not spread anywhere else. His PSA is at 0.14 now. He has more hormone treatment in December, so he is careful about how he puts it. Not out of the woods, but a big chunk of the way. Here is the bit that got me to report this story for you. He told his story in the local paper. A while later a man stopped him in a supermarket to say he had been tested because of it, and that it was positive. The man's wife hugged him in the aisle. One man talking. One man testing. That is the whole of what we are doing in Prostate Paladin, happening between the shelves in a supermarket. So the next time any of you have blood taken for anything at all, ask them to add a PSA to the same sample. You do not need a separate appointment for it. Has anyone here already done that - had a PSA added onto a test you were having anyway? I would like to know how the asking went, because I suspect it is easier than people expect. https://www.skool.com/prostate-paladin-4886/about

Last weekend was Thanksgiving in Canada. Let me tell you about a man called Ken. Ken is not a real man. He is a lot of real men. If you were at a family dinner last weekend, there is a good chance one of them was at your table. Ken is 70. Retired. Three grandkids. Every year the family does Thanksgiving Sunday at his son Dave's house, ninety minutes down the 401. Ken started planning the day before. Not the food. The bathroom. He skipped his coffee in the morning. He went to the toilet twice before they left the house, the second time with his coat already on. Forty minutes in, he needed to go. He pulled into the ONroute and told his wife Joan he was getting gas. The tank was three-quarters full. Joan looked at the gauge and said nothing. At Dave's house there were twenty-two people, a twenty-pound turkey and one bathroom on the main floor. Ken knew where it was before he had his coat off. Dinner started at five. Ken ended up at the far end of the table, against the wall. Bad seat. Every time he needed to go, three people had to shuffle their chairs in. The first trip was before second helpings. A quick "excuse me." Fine. The second trip was the bad one. The door was locked. His niece was in there. Ken stood in the hallway for five minutes, holding it, looking at the line of light under the door and trying to look like a man who was just admiring the family photos. When he finally got in, nothing came quickly. You would think that when you have to go that badly, it would rush out. With an enlarged prostate it often does not. It starts, it stops, it dribbles. Somebody knocked. "Just a minute," Ken said, for the third time. When he sat back down, the pie was already cut. His granddaughter Maya, who is nine, asked for the whole table to hear: "Grandpa, why do you keep leaving?" "Too much cranberry juice," he said. Big laugh. Ken laughed too. He did not find it funny. He said no to the coffee with the pie. He said no to the glass of wine Dave poured him. Not because he did not want them. Because there was still the drive home.