He has finally agreed to do something about the getting up at night. Now the doctor has given him a choice of procedures, and he is nodding along like he understands it. You are not sure he does. Here is something worth knowing before the final decision is made. Researchers followed 187 men who had one of two procedures for an enlarged prostate - the standard surgery, and a newer steam treatment. They wanted to know who regretted their choice later. The surprising part: the regret did not really come down to which procedure the men picked. Both groups were mostly happy. What separated the men who felt good from the men who felt let down was whether they understood the trade-offs before they said yes. Not the operation. The conversation before the operation about the outcomes after. So the most useful thing you can do is not push one procedure over another. It is help him slow down and ask five things before he agrees to anything: - Do I actually understand what this involves? - Would I choose it again if I had the time over? - Have I been given enough time to think, or am I being rushed? - Has anyone explained the other options, not just the first one offered? - What does a good result look like, and is that what I am expecting? Those five questions are, near enough, what the researchers used to measure regret. The men who could answer them walked away steady. The men who could not were the ones with second thoughts. I am not a doctor. But someone needs to be one to ask "are you sure you understand this?" before he signs the form. We are often so focused on eliminating the problem, that we forget to check what the consequences of one thing over another are. You noticed the night-time trips. You can notice this too. Talk to him before the appointment, not after. https://www.skool.com/prostate-paladin-4886/about

There is a man in the news this week - Darren, 53, sells houses in a country town in Victoria, Australia. He went in for a blood test expecting to be told to exercise and eat less takeaway. It came back as prostate cancer. Here is the part that stuck with me. He only had that test on his check-up because his father and his uncle had both had it. That family history is the only reason he thought to ask. Without it, he probably waits, like most of us do. If a friend had not pointed at my trousers in an airport years ago and told me it was my prostate, I would have kept ignoring mine too. Somebody has to be the one who says the words. Most men have no idea what actually runs in their own family. Nobody ever talked about it. The uncle who "had trouble with his waterworks" and left it at that. So my question for you: do you know your family history with the prostate? Did anyone ever actually tell you, or did you have to go digging? I want to hear how you found out - it might be the nudge someone else here needs. https://www.skool.com/prostate-paladin-4886/about

Happy wife, happy life. A man named Michael had his prostate checked. The number came back normal. Most people would stop there for the year at least. Six months later he was at a cancer walk with his wife, LeeAnn. She saw a mobile screening van and had a nagging feeling he should test again. He did not really want to. He went because she asked. The new number was still in the normal range - but it had jumped. With his family history, that jump added up to a real risk. It turned out to be early prostate cancer, caught before it spread. He is cancer free now. That right there is the key - caught early. LeeAnn is a two-time breast cancer survivor. She said she has learned to listen to her gut. This time her gut was pointing at him. Here is what stays with me. His test was normal and she still spoke up. She did not have proof. She had a feeling and the nerve to say it out loud. That is the whole thing, is it not? Somebody has to break the "I am fine, I will go later." https://www.skool.com/prostate-paladin-4886/about So a question for the room: have you ever been the one who pushed - or the one who got pushed - into a test you were putting off? What did it actually take to say it?

Sorry a little bit of click bait there, but as you read through this I think you will agree with what it says. A study out of Beijing this month asked more than 400 men over 50 what they knew about an enlarged prostate. The average knowledge score was 8.68 out of 20 possible points. What got me was the rest of it - the same men had a good attitude and were willing to act. They just did not have the information. So they were aware of the prostate and knew that it required them to be proactive, but they did not have access to the right information. Think about that, I know this study is from China, but the Chinese have long valued health, much more so that the west where health is often treated as an afterthought. So if the Chinese are not getting enough information, that almost certainly means the men of the west are not getting enough information. That is exactly why this community exists. Not because men do not care about their health. Because nobody ever sat them down and explained the gland in plain words. An enlarged prostate is not cancer and does not turn into it. It is common and it is manageable. But a man cannot deal with something he was never taught to name. Here is my honest question for the room: when you first started getting up at night, or noticed a weaker stream, did you know it was the prostate? Or did you call it getting older like most of us did? I did not have a clue until a friend told me in an airport. I would like to hear your version. https://www.skool.com/prostate-paladin-4886/about SOURCE: Beijing study, Neurourology and Urodynamics, July 2026 (via Medical Xpress / HealthDay).

You have to ask - and don't take no for an answer Three men this week, one lesson: nobody hands you a prostate test - you have to ask for it. Robert asked early because it ran in his family, and it saved him. John was not even ill, got a free test on a whim, and walked away with the all clear. And Bob, who lost his father and his brother to it, survived it himself and now raises money and pushes other men through the door. Awareness is key - which is what we have been saying all along. Take one of these three and use it on a man you love. Get him to ask for the simple blood test. It removes a mountain of worry. https://www.skool.com/prostate-paladin-4886/about