Everyone wants to be at the top of the mountain, but no one wants to walk through the valley. An old saying, but a true statement. In the journey of becoming and obtaining what we desire the most for ourselves… we realize it will also require the most of ourselves! For some of us that may be a career change, pursuing more education, starting a business, deciding to have children, or the biggest one: deciding to get married! The Wait .vs. The Weight of Marriage As I’ve gotten older, I feel like I’ve had an epiphany about “the wait of marriage” (the when) versus “the weight of marriage” (the work). Many of us have had our dream wedding planned since we were kids, it was glamorized and made a focal point for spiritual purposes (no shacking up, “be fruitful and multiply “ ). Although admirable, the longing and the pressures of society as well as our “biological clocks” made the waiting (for right person, for right time, etc) unbearable. Some of us have given up or have made peace with the idea of never marrying. Meanwhile there are the proud and the few who have become hyper focused into the solitude of singleness, which the bibles says “ is a gift to those who understand it” lol. With that said, I’d like to shed some light with myself and others who may be reading my perspective by saying…there is worthiness in both. I choose to believe that I am worth the wait (the time it takes to prepare myself in becoming a wife one day- the time it takes to be pursued) and I am worth the weight ( the work that it requires to show up daily in a marriage). Both require understanding yourself intimately: self love, self care, self first. Both require knowing your strengths and areas of growth. Both require communication and commitment. Both require a version of you that is willing to invest until you can ensure. We are not waiting to stand in love with someone who love us more than we love ourselves, we are waiting for someone who can love us as much as we love ourselves because the love they have for themselves compliments the love we now have for each other.

It’s Sexual Assault Awareness Month. This morning, we’re holding space for a real conversation—about prevention, about resources, and about what healing actually looks like. Because in our work, we know that what happens to us doesn’t stay in isolation… it shows up in our bodies, our relationships, and our ability to feel safe. So today, we’re talking about it—with care, with intention, and without shame. 🖤 If this is something you’ve experienced, you’re not alone.And if you’re supporting someone who has, this conversation matters too.

The living room is back! #HappyBirthday #LoveYallNorthCarolina

March is Mental Health Awareness Month, and I want to say something simple: Mental health isn’t just about diagnosis. It’s about: • how safe you feel in your relationships • whether you feel like you can be honest about what you’re carrying • whether you’re allowed to rest, feel, and be human For many of us — especially in our communities — we were taught to push through instead of check in. But awareness is the first step toward change. Take a moment today to ask yourself: “How am I really doing… not the answer I give everyone else?” Drop a word in the comments that describes how you're showing up this week.