Sitting with the Browns discussing covenant...tune in!

Mental WEALTH Houston Cigar Week

NC was interesting...made us re-evaluate the season we are in...what season are you in?

Everyone wants to be at the top of the mountain, but no one wants to walk through the valley. An old saying, but a true statement. In the journey of becoming and obtaining what we desire the most for ourselves… we realize it will also require the most of ourselves! For some of us that may be a career change, pursuing more education, starting a business, deciding to have children, or the biggest one: deciding to get married! The Wait .vs. The Weight of Marriage As I’ve gotten older, I feel like I’ve had an epiphany about “the wait of marriage” (the when) versus “the weight of marriage” (the work). Many of us have had our dream wedding planned since we were kids, it was glamorized and made a focal point for spiritual purposes (no shacking up, “be fruitful and multiply “ ). Although admirable, the longing and the pressures of society as well as our “biological clocks” made the waiting (for right person, for right time, etc) unbearable. Some of us have given up or have made peace with the idea of never marrying. Meanwhile there are the proud and the few who have become hyper focused into the solitude of singleness, which the bibles says “ is a gift to those who understand it” lol. With that said, I’d like to shed some light with myself and others who may be reading my perspective by saying…there is worthiness in both. I choose to believe that I am worth the wait (the time it takes to prepare myself in becoming a wife one day- the time it takes to be pursued) and I am worth the weight ( the work that it requires to show up daily in a marriage). Both require understanding yourself intimately: self love, self care, self first. Both require knowing your strengths and areas of growth. Both require communication and commitment. Both require a version of you that is willing to invest until you can ensure. We are not waiting to stand in love with someone who love us more than we love ourselves, we are waiting for someone who can love us as much as we love ourselves because the love they have for themselves compliments the love we now have for each other.