You have to Tell your mind what to think about. Take time to think about a negative thought and then resolve it within yourself, with no lies and then your are left with positive thoughts and resolve only.

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Let me tell you a story, back when I was younger I used to believe that I could never get the results that I wanted in healing trauma. I just had this toxic mindset that really held me back. I remember I would sit down and be on my couch and just overthink stuff. But you know what, that younger version of me all he had to do all he had to do was just do the repetitions, do the work constantly on repeat, and make it consistent by being disciplined. That really is half the battle right there. In this post I just want to tell you that getting results in whatever area of life you care about, like even trauma healing or mental health, is just about repetition. Doing the habits that heal your trauma that are good for your mental health day after day, no matter how you feel. That's what it's all about. Thank you for reading and I hope it was valuable.

Is it difficult to get people you want with you to understand your pov and the changes you make in conversation and manurism. I found that it's important to find relatability and height through level conversation, but someone who has known you before you changed frequency would still have an pov where you aren't as perfect as you fully understand yourself.

Who did you have to be as a kid to receive the love or approval of mom and dad? Perfect? Quiet? A pleaser? Self reliant? This right here is one of the biggest shifts I see people have in coaching or at live events The roles we took on as a kid become the subconscious identity as an adult For me I adopted a role of “pleaser” due to having a controlling hard to please step mom If I could ease tension I could feel “safe” My dad had that pattern too and modeled it by not challenging or being assertive in his relationship For me to break this pattern I had to become “BAD” to the old role To be “good” meant to abandon myself, to make others happy, etc BAD was being selfish, expressing my emotions, setting boundaries, etc For me to create this SHIFT… I had to lean into tension and express the real me I had to take on the values of "authenticity" and “vulnerability” I had to catch my desire to ease other people's tension and let them sit with it knowing it is theirs not mine to manage This tension became the initiation into a new me Years ago as I started this shift I had to reconnect to certain friends to express how I felt I had to be honest moving forward over wanting approval It resulted in self respect, self acceptance and feeling safe inside of my own body And the crazy thing… as a result others respected me as a reflection I was able to go deeper with people and felt more connected to myself and THEM Yes some people fell out of my life as a result of this authenticity… and in their place other relationships and friendships formed It's all a part of the process :) What role are you letting go of or becoming aware of? What would be a way of leaning into the tension of breaking that pattern? And who would you be without that pattern? Remember, it's a pattern… NOT you :) Talk to you soon, Aaron (you’re the SOUL not the ROLE) Doughty