You’re still functioning. Still delivering. Still being relied on. So why does everything feel heavier than it should? This session is for people who wouldn’t describe themselves as “burnt out” — but know they’re carrying more than is sustainable. We explore: • the difference between stress and load • why high performers don’t notice overload until late • what it means to be capable beyond capacity You’ll leave with language for something you’ve never named but have been living inside.

I want to say something. As my mum used to say, "Who's there to help the helper?" Most of you here are high-capacity helpers. You think deeply. You care about doing things well. You carry a lot — professionally and personally. And because you’re competent, you rarely get checked on. Properly. People assume you’re fine. Sometimes, even YOU assume you’re fine. But there’s a difference between: - Coping and thriving - Delivering and feeling well - Being capable and being regulated If your sleep has been irregular… If your mind feels busy even when the room is quiet… If your patience feels shorter than it used to… If you’ve normalised operating slightly tired… If you're triggered by things that don't usually bother you... Or vice versa. In our "Responsibility as identity" workshop last night, I shared the analogy of the backpack. Sometimes, it's not just how much you're carrying, it's how you're carrying it, if what's in the bag is even yours to carry. Carrying without structured recovery eventually becomes strain. This community exists because I don’t believe highly driven, deeply responsible helpers should have to crash to recalibrate. You don’t need to wait for something dramatic. You don’t need to be “burnt out enough.” You don’t need permission to take your wellbeing seriously. If you’re feeling stretched at the moment, this is your reminder: You are allowed to strengthen the system beneath your success. You are allowed to want sustainability. You are allowed to build a version of ambition that doesn’t cost your nervous system its balance. And if you’re considering joining ASCEND before it's midnight registration deadline on Friday 27th February, know this — It’s not about fixing you. It’s about restoring margin. Clarity. Capacity. Thank you for being part of this community. For engaging honestly in the comments and DMs. For being willing to look beneath the surface. That’s leadership too.

At some point, responsibility stops being a role — and becomes who you are. This workshop is for leaders who are: • the reliable one • the steady one • the one others lean on And quietly tired of always being necessary. We look at: • how responsibility attaches to identity • why delegation doesn’t reduce emotional load • what happens when your nervous system never gets to stand down This session is about understanding the cost of always being the one who holds things together.

Mercy - not getting what you do deserve Grace - getting what you don’t deserve Both require judgement and give the impression that something is to be earned When we feel that way about rest, we can drive ourselves to burnout because deep down, we don’t feel like anything we do will ever be ‘enough’ So we need to make a shift You don’t earn the right to rest Rest IS the right And the bonus is that when you practice rest as a right, it gives you the energy to do what you’re doing, well More energy = more focus More focus = less mistakes Less mistakes = less correction Less correction = more time More time = more energy So what judgement are you casting over yourself that makes you feel like you still have to earn rest? What time horizon are you giving yourself which makes everything urgent and a now problem? What story about your past are you trying to overcompensate for? What issue do you care about so deeply that you feel only you can deal with it within your lifetime? Let’s discuss in the comments

I wanted to share something that could really support some of you. Vicki Igbokwe-Ozoagu, who I know personally as a mentor, is hosting a 30-minute Lighter Leadership™️ Reset. It’s a facilitated space designed for people who carry a lot of responsibility and rarely get uninterrupted time to think clearly. It’s not a workshop or training. It’s a protected space to pause, step out of urgency, and hear yourself think again. The next session is on Wednesday 25th March, and it’s £25. She also shared a code with me that reduces it to £17.50 for those in this community: RESET26 I thought of us because of the level of leadership and responsibility so many of us hold. Here’s the link if you’d like to book, and/or take a look: https://buy.stripe.com/dRm4gAd0I6k9cy65z86AM07 No pressure at all. Just wanted you to know it exists. For those who attend, let's share our experiences in the comments