And a body that can tell the truth can stop performing. So many of us were trained to survive by going numb: to intellectualize, to overfunction, to be “strong,” to be palatable, to be good. Numbness is a strategy. What if you didn’t need that strategy ALL the time. Where in your body do you notice yourself going numb—or holding your breath—in daily life? When you reclaim the capacity to feel, you reclaim the capacity to choose. Experiencing ourselves at choice is a big chunk of the work here in the Pleasure Project. Erotic pleasure is purposeful, potent medicine. It sits at the crossroads of power, shame, belonging, and desire. It shows us where we clamp down, where we rush, where we barter our yes for approval. It also shows us that the body doesn’t just remember trauma, it remembers agency. It remembers what it feels like to be met, to be wanted without being used, to be in contact without being consumed. “Feeling” is the body’s way of speaking truth in a language older than logic. Boundaries. Consent. Timing. Truth. The Pleasure Project teaches new possibilities: - Safety without collapse - Aliveness without danger - Intimacy without self abandonment I am curious: what messages about pleasure have shaped your body’s capacity to receive? What might “receiving without apology” look like in your current season of life?

Take a moment and feel it—not just think about it. Where does it live in your body? What texture does it have? Is it sharp, full, restless, warm? Now ask: what does it crave? Every emotion has a want underneath it. Anger might want movement or release. Sadness might want to be held. Desire might want to be seen. Joy might crave space to expand. When we let ourselves feel those cravings all the way through—without tryingto fix or analyze them—we open the door to pleasure. Pleasure isn’t separate from what we feel; it’s what happens when we meet our emotions with curiosity instead of control. When we breathe into what’s real, the body begins to soften. The senses start to wake up. We return to ourselves. Pleasure lives there—in the simple act of presence. So, what’s the emotion moving in you right now? And what would it feel like to let it have what it’s craving?

You can’t say “I love to read” but “I don’t like the letters!?!” The fundamentals, y’all. I’m reading your messages — and I hear the excitement, the questions, the eagerness for what’s next. But before we run ahead, we need to get solid on the fundamentals first. So let’s build the foundation together. What do you want to master this year — the core skills or understandings that everything else builds on? What feels essential for you right now? Drop your 👇 in the comments so I can make sure we’re starting where it matters most. #pleasureisascience

Now listen— I didn’t grow up in a world where women could say what they wanted. Girls were taught to be quiet, grateful, and decent. Desire was something you felt, but didn’t name. Pleasure was something you reacted to, not requested. I am still learning that it's okay to say what I want. I’m not trying to be 25. I’m just finally telling the truth.

Does anyone have old-timey, or in my case, old Black (Southern), sayings their family quotes all the time? 🤣 (In my family, many of them are either to the point, reek of a tall tale, or are wholly inappropriate.) A beloved uncle had many- especially for a woman who is a "brickhouse". Today as I admiring myself in the mirror, noticing how good my 🍑 looked in my jeans. I heard a saying of my decreased uncle, "Thin in the waist like a wasp and thick in the a$s like a horse." 🤣