Holding the Tension of Opposites
Something I’ve been sitting with lately, especially with all the conversations around teachers and gurus… It feels like we keep getting pulled into the same trap.Either elevate someone completely, or tear them down completely. But I’m not sure either move gets us any closer to truth. There’s a different approach that’s been more useful for me, and it’s basically holding the tension of opposites. On one side, you can acknowledge that someone like Eckhart Tolle or Deepak Chopra may have offered something real. Something that genuinely helped people see or experience things differently. On the other side, you can also see the blind spots, contradictions, or behavior that doesn’t line up with what they’re teaching. Both can be true. The problem starts when we feel the need to collapse that tension too quickly. Either:“They’re the answer”or“They’re completely off” That move feels satisfying, but it shuts down perception. What I’ve been experimenting with instead is staying in that middle space a little longer. Not defending.Not attacking.Just noticing. What actually holds up?What feels off?What proves itself over time? And interestingly, when you don’t rush it, things start to sort themselves out. You don’t need to “decide” as fast.Clarity shows up on its own. It’s similar to what we’ve been talking about with the witness.Not stepping away from the material, but staying aware while you’re inside it. You can stay open to what’s useful…without handing over your discernment. And you can question things…without needing to burn everything down. For me, that’s been a much more stable way to navigate all of this. Less about finding the perfect teacher…and more about refining how I’m seeing. Curious how others are holding that tension right now.