Some days you hear the birds singing. Other days, it’s just the alarm ringing. Some days the sun hits your face just right. Other days, you wake up already in a fight. Some days the phone won’t stop with good news. Other days, silence feels like it’s judging you. Some days the numbers work. Some days they don’t. Some days you feel on top of the world. Some days you wonder how you got here at all. Most people see opposites. Good days and bad days. Winning and losing. Success and failure. I don’t. I see choices. The choice to stay present or spiral. The choice to respond or react. The choice to learn or to harden. The choice to lead yourself when no one else is watching. As Mahatma Gandhi once said, “They can never take away our self respect if we do not give it to them.” The world will always bring contrast. Business will always test you. Life will always apply pressure. But your mindset is not something that happens to you. It is something you practise. The work is not removing the bad days. The work is choosing who you are on them. That is where real growth lives. (PS - the pic is a commission i got painted by the artists Zinsky because of how inspiring Gandhi life and achievements are - if ever you need to understand the power of resilience, mindset and silence is - read about his life)

Not aggressive. Not violent. Not a dick. Just disagreeable. Say things like: Actually, I am not sure I agree with that. or Can you explain that in more detail, because that does not sit right with me. Or simply, I disagree. Even if you are not 100 percent sure yet. I once had an incredible Oil Co boss who would deliberately disagree in meetings. Not to be awkward. But to see who actually believed what they were saying. Who would stand up for their thinking. Who really understood their own argument. Who could support and justify their position Most people folded instantly. They were not thinking. They were agreeing. Sucking up. Going along with the masses. And here is the uncomfortable truth. Being agreeable makes you part of the Masses. The masses are broke. The masses are not growing. The masses live lives of quiet desperation. The average UK business makes about £13,000 a year: Who the fuck wants that? If you want a different outcome, stop agreeing for comfort and start thinking for yourself. Try being disagreeable today. See what happens.

Here are 2 questions to sit with this weekend. Question 1. When you were 10 or 11 years old, What did you believe you would become, do, or achieve? Not a hope. Not a wish. A belief. At that age, everything felt possible. There was no doubt. Only certainty. So what was it? And has it changed? If it has, ask yourself why. Question 2. Who were the biggest dream stealers in your life? Parents trying to protect you? Teachers pushing “realistic” careers? Friends projecting their own limits? Society rewarding conformity over courage? At some point, someone questioned your belief. Dismissed it. Warned you off it. And slowly, certainty turned into caution. Belief turned into practicality. Dreams turned into compromise. Here is the uncomfortable truth. We often blame externally. But if you are not living your dream today, The person who ultimately stole it was you. Others may have planted the doubt. But you accepted it. You carried it. You lived by it. And yet. Look at the evidence. • John Paul DeJoria He co founded Paul Mitchell in 1980 at age 36, while living in his car and essentially homeless. This was not youthful luck. It was late belief, backed by grit.... Net worth $4BILLION • Colonel Sanders He began franchising Kentucky Fried Chicken seriously at age 65. After bankruptcy, rejection, and failure after failure. Most people are planning retirement at the age he started. 30,000++ restaurants in 145 countries Empire now worth $20BILLION • Vera Wang She entered fashion design at age 40, after failing to make the Olympic skating team and leaving a long career at Vogue. She did not “pivot early”. She began when most people think doors are closing. Estimated net worth of over $600 million. It was never too late for them. And it is not too late for you. Let us be clear: Dreams do not expire. Belief does. So here is the call to action. Stop blaming the world.

...always just commit one more day! Apparently today is the day most people give up on their New Year’s resolutions. The third Friday of January. Not mess them up. Not pause them. Just quietly decide, “Yeah… maybe not.” It got me thinking about a Zig Ziglar line I’ve always liked. He said, “Are you a wandering generality or a meaningful specific?” Most people wander. Through goals. Through years. Through life. They want things to be “better”. They want to be “more successful”. They want to be “happier”. But they never pin it down. I don’t want that. I want rifle focus. I want dreams that pull me forward. I want needs that push me when motivation fades. And I want enough passion for the journey to keep going when it gets boring, uncomfortable, or slow. Because that’s the bit most people don’t talk about. The giving up doesn’t happen because the dream wasn’t real. It happens because the dream was vague. Specific dreams create tension. Good tension. The kind that gets you out of bed. So if today is the day most people quit, that’s fine. They were wandering anyway. I’d rather be a meaningful specific.

A quote from my new novel, The Remembering. Coming soon: “Memory isn’t stored in the brain. It’s accessed through it.” She moved to one of the alcoves. Touched a carved spiral. “We think memory is neurons firing. Synapses connecting. Chemical reactions. But that’s like saying music is stored in a radio. The radio doesn’t create the music. It receives it. Tunes into a frequency that already exists.” Gabriel frowned. "So where is memory stored?" "Everywhere. In stones. In water. In DNA. In the field that connects all things." She turned to face him. "Have you ever wondered how a turtle, buried on a beach as an egg, abandoned by its mother, with no parents, no teachers, no instruction manual, knows exactly what to do when it hatches? It doesn't learn. It knows. It digs up through sand it's never seen. Runs toward an ocean it's never smelled. Swims thousands of miles to feeding grounds it's never visited. Returns decades later to the exact beach where it was born. To lay its own eggs. Completing the cycle." "Instinct." If this were true, and many believe it is. Would learning be less about forcing information in, and more about clearing noise out? Would thinking improve if the environment supported it, instead of constantly interrupting it? Would clarity come not from more effort, but from stillness? Is this why meditation is no longer fringe, but becoming essential? And when we look at ancient sites around the world, built with precision, silence, geometry, and used at specific times of day and year. Were they designed to store knowledge. Or to access it? Not teaching. Just asking. I’d be genuinely interested in how others see this.