I never gave childhood trama a thought. Somehow, throughout my years I've been able to rise above the bullying, insecurities, parential fighting, rejections, broken promises, near poverty, boys taking advantage and not being a good student. Raised as a Christian, I always had God to cry out to and He has kept me above it - knowing who I am in Christ. I also made it my super power to reinvent myself or become super outgoing everytime I met a new people group or moved. I became a fun, kind, thoughtful, caring and very loyal friend, wife and mother. But even so, I couldn't control my emotions enough as to not break down when someone was critizing me, ignoring me, and judging me - even when I knew they were right, I'd take the blame but my emotions were high. I never thought that had to do with childhood tramas or coping. I learned it so young and now I'm 59 and still reactive.

Okay, I'm not that crazy lady - but I have seven cats. I only ever wanted two - but thanks for my kids, Covid and one two week old stray - I now have seven and and eighth stray (I can't get close to) lives and I feed in my backyard. I've already rescued and re-homed two strays (three of my seven are in the picture).

ADHD brain here, so bear with me while I try to land this plane...... This may be long, but there really is a point.... I’m really curious if anyone else notices a big difference in how they feel based on what they eat (or don’t eat)? I did keto for over a year and felt AMAZING… but also, let’s be real—that’s not exactly a “forever” lifestyle for me because… carbs....... Rewind a bit—when my son was 16, things were really rough. He was dealing with pseudo-seizures, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, and his weight had gotten pretty high. I had tried everything on the mom side—therapy, support, all of it.......but nothing was really helping. So I tagged in my husband (our resident “science guy” who loves to do research..), and within TWO DAYS he comes back and said, “Pretty sure you guys have the MTHFR gene mutation.” I was like… cool cool cool… I have no idea what you just said............ We got genetic testing done, and sure enough. My husband was right, my son has it (and it comes from one of us... clearly me). Long story short, it affects how his body processes folic acid, which is in basically EVERYTHING. Fantastic for a kid that has a sensory processing disorder.... We shifted his diet (think more gluten-free style......like cauliflower-based stuff, that is not completely what this is but its the closest that I can explain), and within DAYS we saw a difference. In his mood. He lost over 100 lbs (being monitored, due to the fact that he was loosing weight to fast), in less then a year and more importantly, his mood, anxiety, and overall functioning improved. Now, if he eats foods with folic acid, we can literally see the difference in how he feels. Which brings me back to me… When I eat mostly protein + simple foods (like meat and berries), I feel like I have actual energy and a functioning brain. But the second stress hits? I go right back to eating like a raccoon in a gas station dumpster.... and then feel worse then I did before... So it comes down to is NEEED to cut folic acid out of my diet too.

Hey friends, Okay, I have to share something because I'm still kind of shocked. Back in June 2025, I took the 16 Personalities test. I came up as ENFJ-T - "The Protagonist." That made sense to me at the time. The organized one. The helper. The one holding it all together. Mom of six, caregiver to my husband, homeschooler, planner of all the things. Four months later, I started suspecting I might have ADHD and began researching like a woman possessed. Then I joined this program. I just retook the test this week. Six weeks of ADHD Harmony in. And here's what came back: ENFP-T - "The Campaigner." I flipped a letter. J to P. That is not a tiny shift. That's a different type. Here's what blew my mind when the AI walked me through it: ENFJ is often the version that shows up when someone has spent decades performing "organized, structured, has it together" for everyone around them. ENFP is the natural creative dreamer, the possibility person, the one who always felt a little different but couldn't name why. And ADHD brains are almost always P, not J. The test didn't change. I stopped masking. I spent so many years trying to be the J that my life demanded - the responsible one, the one with the planner, the one who had the answers. But I think God wired me as a P from the beginning. The creativity, the big ideas, the way I see patterns and connections everywhere, the way I think in stories - that's not a flaw in my design. That's the design. I just spent a long time apologizing for it. Discovering I likely have ADHD, and going through these six weeks, has let me stop fighting my own wiring. The P was always there. God knew. I just finally let her out. Oh - and my Extraverted score actually went up by 5%, even though I feel more alone in my life than ever right now (caregiving will do that). My Turbulent went up too, because I'm doing harder, more honest inner work. That's not a setback. That's the cost of waking up. And honestly? I think God uses the Turbulent ones. We feel everything, and that's exactly how He gets our attention.

Recently, I’ve shared LOTS of free value, and in return, I asked you to actively engage, support one another, and take your check-ins seriously. And many of you have actually done just that. And... as a result, we’ve moved up from 34th to 29th place in the “self-improvement” category on Skool. The top 30. That means I’m now among the top 1% of community builders on the platform, what a huge dopamine hit this morning when I woke up to see the star emoji. But let's be real... that badge is just as much yours as it is mine. Every like, comment, check-in pushes us up. Which means more people with ADHD can now find this place and get the help they need. You're all incredible. Thank you. 🙏