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Congratulations to @Alee Allana @Erick Kayli and @Rutger Diergaarde for winning this week's competition. Thanks to your posting, comments and other engagement, you've each one a FREE coaching session with me (worth $650). I'll be in touch shortly with details. Next competition will be coming soon...
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Neurodivergent or just annoying?
I've got some things that I do, that I suspect are due to me probably being on the spectrum. They drive my wife nuts. - I talk to myself. Like all the time. I might being doing something and I'm talking out loud about it. "oh, thats how this works... lets try this... etc". I've read that people who do this are in some cognitive loop and it helps them to think clearly, which I think is true for me. However it annoys everyone else. - I repeat things back. Whenever somebody asks me to do something, I will repeat it back. I don't even think about it, it just happens. This is also super annoying to people. - I'll make a list. Even if its just 3 things. Because I know I'll forget. But the minute it takes me to do this is a delay for the person talking to be. Again, super annoying. - I will ask for more detail, making what could be a simple ask from someone into a full conversation, making me look like some idiot who couldn't understand what should have been a simple thing. So, do I make an effort to stop doing these things? Or do I just put it out there, hey, this is who I am, get over it?
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There's no need to change these things. Accept yourself. Whoever has a problem with it, it's THEIR problem. They are either a bad fit, or need to learn to accept you. Watch "Love on the spectrum" and you'll see what some people find annoying others find endearing. Most of social improvement is about changing the quality of the people you spend time with, not changing yourself.
Dopamine
So a friend of mine has been having some major issues with himself mentally, like, brain fog and even having these extreme moments of anxiety and other things. So yesterday he told us that his doctor had done a genetic test on him and had identified that he had a variant of the COMT gene which causes his brain to metabolize dopamine at a faster rate than normal. I immediately looked on 23andme because I had done their testing years ago. Turns out I have it as well. The short of this is a two sided sword. On the one hand, this means we have a higher pain threshold and can do well under high pressure situations. On the other, this also means that at baseline we have more cognitive difficulties, like brain fog and such. Which for me rang so true it was like a WTF moment. I often do well when under pressure. I think thats why I still have a job. Because the rest of the time my brain kinda wanders through a fog but when the shit hits the fan I can jump into gear and fix something. I'm also the type that can be in a mental fog most of the time, but if its the middle of the night and shits going down I can jump right up and go handle things (kids getting sick, etc). But then I'm a wreck the rest of the day. Also its associated with anhedonia, which explains why it seems like I never really enjoy things. I'm really rarely ever happy. I come off as completely emotionless often. So, yeah. theres that.
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I have to call out something here. You will always be able to find a genetic/psychological explanation or justification for why you are the way you are. There will always be a label you can attach to it. This risk with this is it usually becomes an excuse not to try behavioural change. It feels like insight, but insight should lead to improved behaviour. If researching more about why you are the way you are does NOT lead to helpful action, then you might be stuck in the "research hole" - a trick the brain plays on us to make us feel like we're making progress and solving problems while staying exactly the same. As you identified, when shit hits the fan suddenly you're able to access better behaviour. This simply means you are definitely capable. Accessing it in other situations should be solvable. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnAU3HV6HXY
12 hours left to win free coaching!
Hey guys I'll be tallying up the points on the leaderboard at the end of my day today. This is your last chance to be in the top 3 to win a coaching session worth $650. Posting, commenting, and completing course videos will move you up! Winners to be announced next Monday. Cheers Dan
12 hours left to win free coaching!
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@Erick Kayli call it 12 hours from right now - I'm in Czech (CET timezone)
Daily Dose of Integrity
Hey everyone, from now on I will post all Daily Dose of Integrity newsletters into this one thread, to avoid clogging up the newsfeed every day. See the latest comments for the most recent Daily Doses. Enjoy!
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When Helping Your Partner Destroys Your Marriage https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5MCTWcCiD8s
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The Truth About Fear of Rejection
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