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Happy Fathers Day - I suppose

Before I get into this one - I want to start by saying a genuine Happy Fathers Day to all of the Dad's Out there who try their best and strive to give their kids more than what they have. Trying to make sure that they do not have to go through some of the challenges that brought you to my Page.

Admittedly Father's and Mother's day does not sit comfortably with me. For some reason there are parents out there who EXPECT a thank you from their children and for money to spent on them as a way to show gratitude for all that they have provided. There are some who only expect a simple card yet even that does not feel congruent to me.

Now if you are someone who does expect the above and feel Irked by what I have said then I hope that this post helps provide you with a new perspective. If it has upset you, well ... I don't apologise. (sorry not sorry)

Why? simple, what's the point in it? if you are fulfilling your obligation as a parent by providing, comforting, protecting, being present and emotionally available why should your children have to express gratitude on a particular day of the year just because the commercial market demands it?

Is it not your duty? Is that not the contract that you took out when you became a parent? Was that not your Parents obligation? Did your child call you 9 months before they were born begging, pleading or demanding that you bring them into this world? Of course not.

They did not ask for this life, you did. And here you are expecting a gesture each year and being offended when they do not meet your expectations, no matter how small that may be.

Personally, I think it is ridiculous that this expectation exists and quite frankly damaging really. especially when you consider that there are birthdays and other occasions through the year like Christmas where there are similar expectations.

If anything birthdays is a perfect time to thank a parent, thank them for making it another year and to recognise THAT person on THIER day for all that that they have done, One which isn't commericalised and one which isn't shared by billions of others (well not in the same way at least).

I know it seems quite cynical but I think it is a really important point to be had.

Admittedly I did receive some thoughtful gifts this year but I made it abundantly clear, as I do every year, that I do not expect or want anything.

My other half made a point to me a couple of years ago, one which I could not argue and it is this point that I want to put forward to you all today.

She said that she agreed with me, it should not be a Childs responsibility to buy into the commercialised Idea of fathers / mothers day however, a Dad should thank their Childs Mum and a Mum should thank their Childs Dad. A way to say thank you for living up to the expectations that you set for each other when you have a child together. For not walking away, for being supportive, for helping create and build a home that you both dreamed of.

Now THAT is what it should be all about. Parents recognising and appreciating each other for all the hard work they are putting in. So before anyone jumps down my neck about saying Happy Father's Day in my opening lines, just know that this is the reason why I did.

As Long as my daughters have a smile on their face and they try their best at what ever it is they do then that is all of the thanks that I will ever need. If they don't have a smile on their face then that is on me and if they don't try their best - I'll support them anyway.

The same should be for you too.

Let me know what you think.

Love

Chae.

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Happy Fathers Day - I suppose