Fickle, I know, it's probably not a term that you would normally associate with motivation but I find it difficult to find a word that pairs with it quite so well. If you're unsure on what Fickle means here is what google says: changing frequently, especially as regards one's loyalties or affections. "celebs trying to appeal to an increasingly fickle public" I used to wait for motivation to jump at me. Wait for the perfect surge of energy that allows me to be creative, push forward and ultimately chase down my Legacy. I thought that if I had the right level of motivation I would be able to push forward as an unstoppable force. That was where I went wrong. You see, when you think of motivation in that way you create a dependancy with it. You start to believe that the only way that you can succeed and move forward is by having an abundance of Motivation. This is what led me to fail because motivation is nothing more than a fleeting moment. It comes and it goes. It knows no loyalty. It owes you nothing. It will come to you like a slow moving train but leave quicker than Grandparents dropping the kids back off. Motivation is simply the starting point. It's the belief that you can achieve your goals, it creates the desire. The truth is, by simply believing that motivation is what you need to excel and get to yourself to greater heights then you already have it, because you already have the desire to move forward. What you're waiting for is the feeling when in reality what you need to do is create action. Action creates the feeling. It's well known that action creates energy and releases those all important chemicals such as endorphins and dopamine which in turn pushes you to do more. What does action need? A decision. Here is where the real kicker comes in. A decision needs action. So I suppose the message here is do it, do the thing that you want to do and watch the motivation come into play. When you have it, utilise it. this isn't to say that you shouldn't use it in face use and abuse it. Use it as a spring board to help you have a big push forward but do not rely on it by any means. Instead, and I Don't want to sound too cliche here but excuse me if I do, be disciplined - do the thing that that you have been putting off because that feeling you have. The knowing that you should be doing more but choosing not to - in other words procrastinating - is nothing more than your intuition trying to push you to do the thing you should actually be doing.

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Before I get into this one - I want to start by saying a genuine Happy Fathers Day to all of the Dad's Out there who try their best and strive to give their kids more than what they have. Trying to make sure that they do not have to go through some of the challenges that brought you to my Page. Admittedly Father's and Mother's day does not sit comfortably with me. For some reason there are parents out there who EXPECT a thank you from their children and for money to spent on them as a way to show gratitude for all that they have provided. There are some who only expect a simple card yet even that does not feel congruent to me. Now if you are someone who does expect the above and feel Irked by what I have said then I hope that this post helps provide you with a new perspective. If it has upset you, well ... I don't apologise. (sorry not sorry) Why? simple, what's the point in it? if you are fulfilling your obligation as a parent by providing, comforting, protecting, being present and emotionally available why should your children have to express gratitude on a particular day of the year just because the commercial market demands it? Is it not your duty? Is that not the contract that you took out when you became a parent? Was that not your Parents obligation? Did your child call you 9 months before they were born begging, pleading or demanding that you bring them into this world? Of course not. They did not ask for this life, you did. And here you are expecting a gesture each year and being offended when they do not meet your expectations, no matter how small that may be. Personally, I think it is ridiculous that this expectation exists and quite frankly damaging really. especially when you consider that there are birthdays and other occasions through the year like Christmas where there are similar expectations. If anything birthdays is a perfect time to thank a parent, thank them for making it another year and to recognise THAT person on THIER day for all that that they have done, One which isn't commericalised and one which isn't shared by billions of others (well not in the same way at least).

Gratitude - I almost feel that this is a subject that is so oversaturated on SM platforms, Gratitude this gratitude that! So much so that most people out there probably scroll on past when it pop's up. If you are still reading this DO NOT SCROLL. I don't want you to miss this one. So let's really get into it because actually I get it, I used to feel the EXACT same way and even now I tend to scroll past. Not because what is being said is not valuable it's just that I have heard it before! I don't have much time for that so I doubt you do too. To that end I am going to do my best here to NOT to do that, so stick with me. I am going to attempt to answer a single point, What is the point? Well, you're here, you're reading this post and the likelihood is that you are doing so because you want to build a legacy. You want to be a better parent, partner and build a life that your children can be proud of. To do that you need the secret sauce. I can look back at all of the pivotal times in my life and I can confidently say that in the time leading up to those times I was grateful for everything that I had, not to say that I didn't have goals, instead the complete opposite. It was the appreciation of realising how much hard work that I've put in to be where I am and respecting how much more I am going to have to do. Being grateful provides the pivotal ingredients needed to push you forward, things such as: Confidence, self-appreciation, an understanding of what you have to fight for, motivation and Morale. Sure you can get these elsewhere but the quickest and easiest way to do it is by simply being grateful. SM definitely makes it seem easy to be grateful, reality it's not. When you have spent so long focusing on the negatives you cannot expect yourself to just switch to the positives over the course of a few hours. Now for me it is something that I have done for sometime and changing my mindset when I have had self doubt or low self esteem is second nature. I don't think I would do you service by trying to explain it here BUT I do have a solution for you.

Growing up, even now for that matter, I always heard people say things like "look at everything they have, they must be so happy" or " when I get this or that I'll be happy". Unfortunately, that kind of commentary warped my understanding and perception of what happiness actually is. I really came to understand this when I brought my first house almost two years ago. I always had the idea in my head that buying a home would be what makes me happy, not totally sure why because hindsight tells me that I was searching for was security. When we exchanged with keys in hand I could hardly contain my excitement, I distinctly remember being in such a pinch me moment I had to stop my other half as we were walking through the door by saying "Babe, wait" and rang the doorbell as if though I was ringing in a new era of my life. I imagined that this feeling of pride and joy was going to last forever, well at least for a year, but it didn't. I lost it within the first few weeks. I couldn't understand why and quickly went down a mental health spiral because of it, I had to go on a soul searching mission. overtime It dawned on me that it's because I lost a sense of purpose, I had done exactly what I had set out to do 2-3 years ahead of plan and now I had nothing to work toward. I had to seek more because in my mind more will provide me with happiness. To a certain degree I recognise that as humans we need to be continually working toward a goal because, as the great Tony Robbins says so eloquently, the law of the universe is that what doesn't grow dies. We cannot however, lose sight of where we are. We have to take off the binoculars every so often and look at what is right in front of us, THIS is where happiness is. Happiness is in the PRESENT. Another Important point about Happiness is that it is nothing more than a fleeting moment. It is, like everything else we experience, a feeling and feelings are impossible to keep ahold of forever. I guess that's what makes them so addictive. Happiness is like water, we can try to grasp it but it will fall through the cracks of our fingers eventually.