Albert Ellis's 12 irrational thought patterns
Do you recognize yourself self-sabotaging? Do you tend to fall back in unhelpful behavioral patterns and ever wondered why? Our mind is much bigger than we can consciously fathom. It’s often said that only about 10–20% of our mental activity happens in the conscious mind. That means roughly 80–90% is happening beneath the surface, in the subconscious. Under the surface more often than not, our mental constructs, convictions and needs are at the root of our behavior. A man, named Albert Ellis, one of the grandfathers of modern day Cognitive Behavioral Therapy came up with a list of 12 irrational (or unhelpful) thought patterns in which many of us will recognize ourselves. Have a look at the list and ask yourself, which ones do you recognize within you? 1: “I must be loved and approved by everyone.” → The belief that your worth depends on other people’s opinions. → Leads to people-pleasing, fear of failure, and loss of authenticity. 2: “I must always be competent, successful, and capable.” → The drive to perform flawlessly and never make mistakes. → Leads to perfectionism, exhaustion, and fear of trying. 3: “Bad people must be severely punished.” → Rigid moral thinking, often paired with anger and judgment. → Keeps you trapped in resentment and blocks forgiveness or empathy. 4: “It’s terrible when things don’t go the way I want.” → Low frustration tolerance: experiencing discomfort as unbearable. → Leads to stress, anger, and a sense of helplessness. 5: “Human unhappiness is caused by external factors I have no control over.” → The belief that your feelings depend on circumstances or other people. → Removes personal responsibility and inner agency. 6: “If something dangerous or bad could happen, I must worry about it intensely.” → Catastrophic thinking that leads to overthinking, hypervigilance, and anxiety. 7: “It is easier to avoid problems than to face them.” → Avoidance as a coping mechanism. → Leads to greater suffering over time and loss of confidence.