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The coffee chat that isn't a pitch
The fastest way to get hired is also the one that feels the least like job hunting. A 15-minute chat where you ask for nothing.
Here's why it works. Most remote roles get filled by weak ties. People who recognize your name and feel safe replying. You don't build those by sending "hi, are you hiring" DMs. You build them with low-stakes conversations that leave the other person glad they showed up.
The structure. 15 minutes, zero ask.
- The reason. "I follow your work in X and wanted to learn how you got into it." Genuine, specific, flattering without being weird.
- The listening. Let them talk about themselves and their world. You're learning their language and their problems. Do not pitch. Do not hint.
- The give. Before you go, offer one small useful thing. A resource, an intro, a "I noticed X, here's a thought." You become the person who gave, not the person who asked.
- The open door. "This was great, I'd love to stay in touch." That's it. No ask. The relationship is the asset.
Do this five times and you've got five people who know what you do and feel warm toward you. That's where the "saw this role, thought of you" message comes from.
Who's one person you'd actually want to talk to? Start there.
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