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Demands break relationships?
Often, we spend our lives demanding things from people. The saddest part of all is that we demand the most from those we love most—our family and friends, the very people who support us and walk alongside us in this life.
By "demanding," I mean claiming or expecting something from them and, should they fail to meet those expectations, becoming disappointed or, in the worst-case scenario, reproaching them for it.
Any human relationship built on demands will, sooner or later, break. Relationships are like bridges: a bridge will hold as much weight as it was designed to carry, but eventually, there comes a point where the load overwhelms it.
It is the same with human relationships. Demanding things from the people we love most eventually generates suffering. This has nothing to do with knowing how to set boundaries when necessary or asking for our own space nor does it mean that we shouldn't do anything at all.
Demanding nothing from the people we love means not taking anything personally.
It is impossible for a human being to consciously want to cause harm to another. "Harm" always stems from unconsciousness; it is never a conscious choice. If someone close to us "hurts" us or "causes us suffering," we must not take it personally, because quite literally, it isn’t personal—it can never be personal.
Demanding nothing gives people the space to grow and learn on their own terms—or not. But that is up to them.
The tighter you grip a relationship or a person, the more distance they will put between you.
Let them go, love them, honor them.
Stop demanding things from people and, especially, from life itself.
Letting go of the reins—without neglecting our responsibilities—can be the catalyst to start living well and in peace, exactly as it should be.
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