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Why forcing calm keeps the nervous system alert
Many people unknowingly make things harder by trying to force calm.
They tell themselves to relax. They push themselves to feel grateful. They try to think positively.
But pressure — even self-imposed pressure — feels very similar to threat to a nervous system that has lived in survival.
When your body senses pressure, it doesn’t settle. It braces.
Calm is not something you achieve through effort. It’s something your nervous system learns through repeated experiences of:
predictability
consistency
low emotional demand
not being judged for how you feel
This is why healing often feels slower than we want. Because safety has to be proven — not declared.
If you’re not calm yet, that doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means your body is still learning.
And learning takes time.
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Why forcing calm keeps the nervous system alert
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