Watch for the cluster instead: it's always about beingĀ important and powerful, it's "I" on every win and "they" on every failure, and they're either the hero of every story or the eternal victim.
Spotting one is half of it. Handling one is the other half, so I made a free one-page field card that covers both: the 3 signals, the FOG check (what they want you toĀ feelĀ ā Fear, Obligation, Guilt), and theĀ C.A.L.M. methodĀ for de-escalating them without getting pulled in.