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Happy Valentines for me too you

My Dear Future Me,

Happy Valentine’s Day, beautiful soul.

I’m writing to you from a place of deep reflection — from the space between who I was and who I am still becoming. I want you to remember where we came from, not to reopen wounds, but to honor the healing.

We have walked through guilt that wasn’t ours to carry.

We have worn shame like it was stitched into our skin.

We have felt the sting of abandonment and rejection so deeply that we questioned our worth.

There were years we searched for love in all the wrong places — in people who could only meet us at the level they had healed themselves. We tried to earn love. Prove love. Chase love. We poured from an empty cup hoping someone would finally choose us the way we needed to be chosen.

And the hardest truth?

We didn’t know how to choose ourselves.

To my younger self — the little girl who felt unseen, who internalized silence as “I’m not enough” — I forgive you. You were surviving the only way you knew how. You deserved safety. You deserved reassurance. You deserved unconditional love.

To my younger adult self — the woman who confused intensity for intimacy, who mistook attention for affection, who overgave just to avoid being left — I forgive you too. You were trying to fill a void that was never yours to carry. You were craving what you were never taught to give yourself.

And now…

We are no longer begging for crumbs.

We are no longer shrinking to be chosen.

We are no longer abandoning ourselves to keep someone else comfortable.

We are learning to love in a way that is steady. Soft. Sacred.

The healed love we carry now is different. It isn’t loud. It isn’t chaotic. It doesn’t feel like anxiety or fear of loss. It feels like peace. It feels like coming home.

Future me — I hope you have continued to choose yourself every single day. I hope you no longer question your worth in the quiet moments. I hope you protect your heart without hardening it. I hope you love boldly, but never at the expense of your own soul.

May the love in your life reflect the love you finally gave yourself.

May relationships feel reciprocal, safe, and secure.

May you never again chase what is meant to choose you freely.

I am proud of us.

Proud of the shadow work.

Proud of the tears we allowed ourselves to cry.

Proud of the boundaries we set even when our voice shook.

Proud that we stopped romanticizing pain and started honoring peace.

You are no longer the abandoned girl.

You are no longer the rejected woman.

You are the healed love story.

This Valentine’s Day, I choose you.