There’s a particular disorientation experienced leaders rarely name. Not being in over your head - you know how to handle that. This is subtler. It’s reaching for the thing that has always worked, and finding it isn’t quite there.
Your competence is real. The pattern recognition, the judgment, the ability to read what’s needed — that doesn’t disappear. But something has shifted in the terrain, and you’re meeting situations your tools weren’t designed for.
What I notice, in myself and in the leaders I work with, is the automatic pull toward performing certainty. The old identity activates. And underneath it, something quieter and more honest: I don’t actually know what to do here. That sentence, if you can let it land without immediately fixing it, might be the most important thing you say this year.
Competence and uncertainty aren’t opposites. The leaders navigating this moment well aren’t pretending to know. They’re developing a different relationship with not-knowing. Less a problem to solve. More a terrain to move through with presence and awareness.
When did your usual move last fail to fit the situation — and what did you do in that moment?