8d • General discussion
YOU matter too
The key to a happy baby is a happy parent, remember it’s okay to not be okay after all it’s your first time on earth too.
Once I had a baby I felt like I was stripped of my identity and given a new one solely as ‘mummy’ it’s hard having a whole life depend on you.
So try and be easier on yourself; if you look in the mirror and don’t feel familiar with the person looking back at you that is okay too I’ve been there.
Try to make sure you bathe and take care of yourself, even if that means getting in the bath with the baby (remember we need to keep it warm not hot if you do that though), go out and find things that make you feel like yourself again, if you have a village don’t feel guilty to use it.
You’re allowed a day off, you’re allowed time for yourself. Don’t feel guilty because don’t forget you were a different person before you became ’mama’ or ‘dada’ you’re allowed to try and find yourself again.
Going shopping and you’re stood looking at baby clothes and find yourself thinking ‘this baby already has more clothes than I do’ go and get yourself something with that, if it’s not essential remember that as a parent you are, and sometimes luxuries become essential in refinding yourself because they bring a small amount of happiness, and the happier you are the calmer you are.
Try and take an hour to turn off your phone and read a book or put on your makeup even if you’re not going out; my makeup box was practically unused once I had my daughter because I just never felt pretty, I lacked the knowledge of my self worth. I felt like a mombie walking around pale, bags under my eyes on fight or flight mode. But one day I said ‘eh why not I’m not going anywhere but I don’t need to be going somewhere to feel good about myself’ because sometimes all we need is to just see ourselves being pretty again being out of your new form into the form you are familiar with.
Remember to eat and drink, you matter too🩷
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