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Limiting beliefs - the lies we tell ourselves and accept them as truth!
Limiting beliefs are the stories I’ve told myself about what’s possible for me. They often come from past experiences, things I’ve been taught, or the fear of failing. The problem is, I’ve let them feel so real that they’ve kept me stuck in the same patterns, playing the same games, questioning myself. They often show up like:
"I have to do it all”
“I don’t deserve this life”
“I’m too much / not enough” “too loud, too ambitious” or “not bold enough” to be taken seriously.
“People will judge me if I fail”
“I need permission”
“It’s too late for me”
These beliefs often hide under the surface, disguised as “being realistic” or “responsible,” but really they’re just old stories keeping us stuck.
How powerful is having those limiting beliefs broken?!. Given you're in this community I'm sure this has happened for you at some point in time.
I had a similar experience with someone in my world 4 years who left a tiny, hairline crack in my universe. After processing it for a few days I decided to smash through it with a sledge hammer and took the leap I had been putting off my entire career. I quit my management consulting role and went out into the big, bad, business world on my own. I worked so hard! I was a young mum of a 1yr baby and a toddler. I knew if I wanted a different future for my family of creation than the one of my family of origin I was going have to go after it. I started my consulting business and I tripled my annual income in 5 months working 8 days in 5 (3x days per week closing out my salary position, 5x days per week under a new contract) all while I only had childcare for 3 days as well as managing a home life with two small babies.
Side quest: I love my 7 figure consulting business and it is very different to my skool community... I'm not here to make money on skool, I want to help high-functioning women with ADHD for free, period - because I wish I'd had that support or a place to go to when I started.
Back to the main quest: We lie to ourselves everyday. Our brains are designed by evolution to keep us small and safe, they are the most primitive super computer that hasn't had a software update in hundreds of thousands of years!
And our modern world is far more complex and "threatening" that our brain is constantly seeking safety and security.
Being able to shatter these beliefs is the main unlock because when I have been able to, I haven't even realised how stuck I was until someone or something provides a new reality that disproves old assumptions.
So now I'm constantly trying to disprove my beliefs... it is so insidious... But these questions help me slowly work through what they could be:
- What do you wish was different about your life, career, finances, relationships?
- Name the unwanted reality: you wish you had [insert goal, outcome, desired state] in your [insert domain: life, career, finances, relationships] — which means right now, you don’t.
- What would you need to believe to be complicit in creating this reality — even unintentionally? Not blaming — just seeing.
- What belief might you be holding that’s kept this loop going?
- What assumption do you live by that supports the idea of "insert belief in question"?
This has been the scaffolding for me to identify and start to unpack and breakdown unhelpful beliefs hiding in my subconscious. This has been transformational for me.
Based on your experience I'd definitely be keen to hear what you think about this?
What are the limiting beliefs that have kept you stuck in the past? What might be a limiting belief you have now and don't realise? Could this be the reason you haven't done the thing you want to do? I'm so keen to know.
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Limiting beliefs - the lies we tell ourselves and accept them as truth!
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