I have not got the first idea who that saying can be attributed to. It doesn't really matter. It's the message that counts.A variation of that message is, ALL COMES TO THOSE THAT WAIT. Personally I think it is unadulterated bullshit of the highest tree hugging quality. In the real world I have found to my detriment that the people that ascribe to that bullshit have a hidden agenda running in the background along the lines of... IF I WAIT LONG ENOUGH SOME DUMB FUCK WILL DO IT FOR ME. To those people I would introduce them to the concept of GOYFA. A very little known and ancient concept first discovered by the Myans I believe. Apparently it took years to translate into a universal form that people could understand. It translates to... GET OFF YOUR FUCKING ARSE and do it yourself. How many TV's/laptops/computers/mobile phones have you set up because people led you to believe they were helpless? How many times have you been on the phone to insurance companies/utility providers/car dealerships/ insert company of your choice because apparently ' you do it better'? Sound familiar? I can absolutely guarantee these people are not helpless or dumb. They are master manipulators, and very well skilled in the art. I am just going to assume you can tell the difference between GENUINE need and manipulation. Maybe it's time you introduced a few people to the GOYFA concept and make the Myans proud.

Ghosting is everywhere now. Not just in dating. Friends do it. Family does it. Employers do it. People doing business with you do it. And the reason is simple. It’s easier to disappear than to be honest. That’s all ghosting really is. A lack of respect. A lack of courage. A lack of basic decency. In dating, it hits hardest because your ego gets involved. You think there’s a connection, maybe a future, maybe something real. Then suddenly they vanish. No reply. No explanation. Nothing. And for a day or two, it messes with your head. You replay everything. You check your phone. You wonder what you did wrong. Usually, the answer is nothing. Some people are just flaky, dishonest, emotionally unavailable, or full of shit. And ghosting is the clearest way they can show you that without having the guts to say it out loud. What they’re really saying is simple: I don’t care enough. I’m not serious. I’m unreliable. I’m not who you thought I was. That truth hurts at first, but it’s useful. Because the mistake isn’t always that they ghosted. The bigger mistake is getting too emotionally invested in someone who hadn’t earned that level of importance yet. The same principle applies outside dating too. Someone ignores your good news, disappears when it matters, or only shows up when it suits them. That tells you everything you need to know. Not everyone deserves access to your life. Ghosting feels personal in the moment, but usually it’s just exposure. It exposes weak character, bad manners, and fake interest. So feel the sting, then move on. Because once the emotion settles, the message becomes obvious: they removed themselves for you.