β Never Help THESE People! β
Some People Canβt Be Helped Helping people sounds like the right thing to do. And sometimes it is. But there are certain types of people who will drain your time, energy, and sanity no matter how much you try to help them. At some point, learning who not to help becomes a survival skill. Because if youβre not careful, theyβll pull you down with them. Here are some of the worst ones. The Permanent Victim This personβs entire identity revolves around being wronged. Every conversation is about how life is unfair, how people treated them badly, how nothing ever works out. Advice doesnβt help them because they donβt actually want solutions. They want validation that life is happening to them. The more you try to help, the more you feed that identity. Eventually you realize they donβt want change. They want sympathy. The Excuse Machine This person constantly asks for advice, but every suggestion is met with a reason why it wonβt work. βItβs more complicated than that.β βThat might work for someone else, but not me.β What theyβre really doing is avoiding responsibility. Theyβve already decided nothing will change, so your help becomes pointless. The User Users are friendly and respectful only when they need something. The moment they get it, they disappear. They call when thereβs a crisis. They want your time, your attention, your support. But when you need something? Silence. To them, youβre not a person. Youβre a resource. The Chronic Self-Saboteur This person constantly destroys their own opportunities. They ruin healthy relationships. They quit when things get difficult. They waste chances other people would fight for. You help them rebuild, and they sabotage it again. After a while, you realize theyβre committed to the pattern. The Advice Collector This is the person who loves learning but never takes action. They collect books, podcasts, courses, and opinions. They ask endless questions and gather endless information. But they never actually apply any of it.