Please advise me on how to stop spending carelessly.
This isn’t easy for me to talk about, but I hope someone here can relate. I’m the only son of my mother. She raised me alone after her divorce, and our life was filled with real struggle. We experienced true poverty there were days she stayed hungry just so I could eat. I went to school with worn out shoes, holding onto dreams, prayers, and else. Back then, even earning $150 a month felt like it would change our lives. We had no financial knowledge, no savings, just patience and dua. Alhamdulillah, today Allah has blessed me beyond what I ever imagined. Through my halal online business, I now earn over $18,000 monthly an amount my entire family had never seen before. But here’s what I’m struggling with I don’t know how to manage it properly. Because I never had this kind of income before, I sometimes spend without thinkingbgadgets, shoes, things I don’t actually need. I tell myself it’s a reward, but it feels more like a lack of discipline. And then the guilt hits me. I remember my mother’s sacrifices. I remember the life I came from. I remember those who are still living that reality. Allah says in the Quran: Do not be excessive; indeed, He does not love the extravagant.(6:141) That verse weighs heavily on my heart, because I don’t want to fall into wastefulness after Allah has lifted me out of hardship. So I’m sincerely asking: If you came from nothing and suddenly had more than enough, how did you learn discipline? How did you shift your mindset from survival mode to structured financial planning? Are there books, mentors, or habits that helped you build long-term vision instead of short term spending? Allah has blessed me in ways I never imagined. I want to use it wisely, honor my mother, and stay on the right path. Any advice or reminder you share could help me and anyone else facing this same struggle. May Allah reward you for any guidance. If you want to talk or share something privately, you can message me here: https://wa.me/16836097732