Advise me, please I want to stop spending carelessly.

This isn’t easy for me to share, but maybe someone here will understand.

I’m the only son of my mother.

She raised me alone after her divorce, and life was full of hardship. We went through real poverty. There were days she stayed hungry so I could eat. I went to school with torn shoes, carrying dreams and prayers in my heart, but nothing in my pockets.

Back then, even earning $150 a month would have felt like a huge blessing. We had no financial knowledge, no savingsjust patience and dua.

Today, by the mercy of Allah and through effort, I now earn over $18,000 a month from my halal online business. It’s more than my entire family would have seen in many years.

But here is what I struggle to admit:

I don’t know how to handle it.

Because I never experienced this level of income before, I find myself spending without thinking on shoes, gadgets, and things I don’t even need. I tell myself it’s a reward for my effort, but deep down it feels like a lack of discipline.

Then the guilt comes in.

I remember my mother’s sacrifices.

I remember the people still living the way I once lived.

Allah reminds us in the Qur’an:

“Do not be excessive; indeed, He does not love the extravagant. (Qur’an 6:141)

This verse sits heavily in my heart because I feel how easy it is to slip into wastefulness after Allah lifted me out of hardship.

So I’m sincerely asking for advice:

For those who came from nothing and suddenly had more than enough

How did you learn to manage it?

How do you shift your mindset from survival mode to structure and discipline?

Are there books, mentors, or habits that helped you build a long-term vision instead of short-term spending?

Allah has blessed me in ways I never imagined. I don’t want to misuse what He has given me. I want to honor my mother, build discipline, and secure a future that keeps me on the right path.

Any reminder, advice, or resource you share might help not only me, but others going through the same struggle.

Thank you for your time, and may Allah reward you for any guidance you give.

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