Hey becoming women! That title got you didn't it??? Guess what, we're going a different way! There is a different kind of spiritual growth that shows up when you find yourself able to pray earnestly for the people who hurt you. Not a surface prayer. Not a performative prayer. Not a prayer that still secretly wants God to “get them.” I mean the kind of prayer that comes from a heart that has been processed, softened, and matured by God. One of the clearest signs that healing is taking place in us is when we can bring those who wronged us before the Lord without bitterness leading the conversation. That does not mean what they did was acceptable. It does not mean there was no damage. It does not mean you have forgotten. It means you are no longer allowing pain to have the final say over your posture. I think back to my own ability to pray for the fathers of my children. I got to a place where I realized that I needed to get out of myself and pray for them because, in essence, I was praying for my children. No matter how we started or how we ended, I made the choice to be with them and bear their children. At some point I had to mature enough to understand that praying for their fathers was connected to praying for my babies. That perspective changed something in me. It made me look beyond my own hurt and see the bigger picture. It made me realize that if I stayed bound in resentment, bitterness, anger, and offense, I would be carrying chains that God never intended for me to wear. And not only that, I would also be keeping others locked in a prison inside my heart as if I were their judge. But we have to remind ourselves: we are not their God. We do not get to hold people captive inside of their wrongs forever. We are called to account for our own motives, our own actions, and our own hearts before the Lord. That means asking God to deal with us, too. To search us. To heal us. To free us from the need to rehearse offenses, replay pain, and wear woundedness like armor.

This space is for women who are learning, healing, growing, and figuring life out one step at a time. We’re talking about faith, healing, relationships, careers, purpose, confidence, fashion, and all the real-life stuff women navigate every day. Inspired by my books Girl, Get It Together and Piece by Peace, this community is about becoming whole while still enjoying the journey. So let’s start with something fun… Drop 3 things about you: 1️⃣ Your city 2️⃣ Something you're currently working on in life (healing, career, relationships, etc.) 3️⃣ One thing that always makes you feel like that girl (heels, a fresh hairstyle, prayer time, a good outfit, etc.) I’ll go first in the comments.

Hey becoming women! I pray and hope that you had an amazing weekend. I want us to get in the habit of making sure that we are doing some form of self care during our down time. We have to realize that we are just as important as the people that we take care of, the jobs we work, businesses we run and even the hobbies that we enjoy. The desires and dreams that we have cannot be achieved if neglect our own well-being.We have got to give ourselves time for rejuvenation! I'll tell you about my weekend, then I want to hear about yours. Friday, I got my hair done - something that I had actually gotten out of the habit of doing because I know how to do it myself - but I promised myself that I will make more of an effort to allow someone else to take care of me sometimes. Let me tell you, sittingin that chair getting my head massaged, receiving treatments and having my haircut felt absolutely amazing! I had forgotten what it was like to let someone do something for me! Saturday, I put on my cute suit with my beautiful hair, made up my face - something that I normally don't do - and I attended one of my sorority's finer womanhood events with my best friend where her good friend was the speaker. As I sat at that table God gave me so much revelation!!! He confirmed so many things that I'd taken to Him in my quiet time with God. He loves me SO MUCH that He spoke to me while I was sitting at that table during a social event, and I knew that I was in the right place at the right time to receive the word that God had just for me. Sunday I went to church where I enjoyed a spirit-filled praise and worship and the word of God. All in all, it was an amazing weekend because after all that, I listened to my body and rested! So ladies, tell me what did for yourselves this weekend? Stay uniquely you, Tamika

Okay ladies, let’s switch gears for a minute and have a little fun. There’s this strange idea floating around that once a woman becomes serious about her walk with Christ, she’s supposed to suddenly become frumpy, dull, and completely uninterested in fashion. But let’s be honest… that’s not biblical. You can love God deeply and still enjoy expressing yourself through style. The real question isn’t whether we should care about fashion. The question is how we present ourselves. Are we intentional? Does our outward appearance reflect the dignity and confidence of who we are in Christ? Or are we dressing in ways that conflict with the character we’re trying to live out? Personally, I enjoy fashion. I like variety. I like pushing the edge a little and trying different looks. I definitely don’t look the same all the time because I appreciate creativity. But one thing I always make sure of is this: When I walk out of my door, I never have to defend what I’m wearing. I can confidently stand in it. Because faith and fashion don’t have to compete. They can actually complement each other when we approach them with intention. After all, Scripture reminds us that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:14) So let’s talk about it. Discussion Questions 1. Do you think there’s pressure in Christian spaces for women to tone down their style? Why or why not? 2. How do you balance expressing yourself through fashion while still honoring your faith? 3. What makes you feel most confident when you get dressed? 4. Has your style evolved as you’ve grown in your walk with God? 5. If someone looked at your style, what would you want it to communicate about who you are? Let’s have a little fun with this one. Bonus: Drop your favorite outfit type in the comments: 👗 Dress girl 👖 Denim queen 👟 Street style 👠 Glam all day 🧥 Layered & classy Because being a woman of faith doesn’t mean you have to lose your sense of style.

Yesterday something happened that had the potential to completely disrupt my day. You ever notice how someone else’s emergency can suddenly become your responsibility if you’re not careful? For a moment I felt the pressure to shift everything I had planned… but I had to pause and remind myself of something important: Every situation does not require my emotional, mental, or spiritual takeover. Sometimes the most mature thing you can do is stand firm, keep your peace, and refuse to allow someone else’s chaos to dictate your day. So instead of reacting, I prayed. I asked God for wisdom, boundaries, and the discipline to protect the peace He’s been teaching me to cultivate. And let me tell you… peace will cost you the need to fix everything for everyone. But it’s worth it. Moral of the story: THAT'S NOT MY EMERGENCY!!!!! Question for you:Have you ever had to decide that someone else’s emergency wasn’t going to become your emergency?