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Ohhhhh you pissed me off!!!
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There is a different kind of spiritual growth that shows up when you find yourself able to pray earnestly for the people who hurt you.
Not a surface prayer.
Not a performative prayer.
Not a prayer that still secretly wants God to “get them.”
I mean the kind of prayer that comes from a heart that has been processed, softened, and matured by God.
One of the clearest signs that healing is taking place in us is when we can bring those who wronged us before the Lord without bitterness leading the conversation. That does not mean what they did was acceptable. It does not mean there was no damage. It does not mean you have forgotten. It means you are no longer allowing pain to have the final say over your posture.
I think back to my own ability to pray for the fathers of my children. I got to a place where I realized that I needed to get out of myself and pray for them because, in essence, I was praying for my children. No matter how we started or how we ended, I made the choice to be with them and bear their children. At some point I had to mature enough to understand that praying for their fathers was connected to praying for my babies.
That perspective changed something in me.
It made me look beyond my own hurt and see the bigger picture. It made me realize that if I stayed bound in resentment, bitterness, anger, and offense, I would be carrying chains that God never intended for me to wear. And not only that, I would also be keeping others locked in a prison inside my heart as if I were their judge. But we have to remind ourselves: we are not their God.
We do not get to hold people captive inside of their wrongs forever.
We are called to account for our own motives, our own actions, and our own hearts before the Lord. That means asking God to deal with us, too. To search us. To heal us. To free us from the need to rehearse offenses, replay pain, and wear woundedness like armor.
Jesus was clear when He said in Matthew 5:44 to love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who despitefully use you and persecute you. In Luke 6:27-28, He tells us again to pray for those who mistreat us. That kind of instruction is not casual. It is transformational. It goes against our flesh, but it aligns us with the heart of God.
When we pray for those who have hurt us, chains begin to break.
Chains break off of us because prayer loosens bitterness, resentment, revenge, pride, and emotional bondage. Ephesians 4:31-32 tells us to put away all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking, and to be kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving toward one another just as God in Christ forgave us. Colossians 3:13 reminds us to bear with one another and forgive one another, even as Christ forgave us.
Chains can also begin to break off of them because prayer places them into the hands of the One who truly knows how to deal with hearts. We cannot heal, convict, or transform anybody by staying angry. But God can. Romans 12:19-21 reminds us not to avenge ourselves but to leave room for God, and not to be overcome by evil, but to overcome evil with good.
Prayer shifts us from wounded reaction to spiritual authority.
It says, “I will not let this pain make me hard. I will not let this offense become my identity. I will not let this bitterness keep me bound.”
And where there have been strongholds built through pain, rejection, betrayal, or disappointment, the Word reminds us in 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 that the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. Isaiah 61:1 declares that the Spirit of the Lord anoints us for liberty and the opening of prison doors. Galatians 5:1 tells us to stand fast in the liberty where Christ has made us free and not be entangled again with the yoke of bondage.
Sometimes the proof that God is growing you is not that you no longer remember what happened.
Sometimes the proof is that you can remember it and still pray.
That is growth.
That is healing.
That is maturity.
That is deliverance.
That is what it looks like when chains are breaking.
So today, let this be your reminder: choosing to pray for those who hurt you is not weakness. It is spiritual strength. It is evidence that God is doing a deeper work in you. It is how you stop bleeding on everybody around you. It is how you make room for freedom. It is how you refuse to stay tied to what tried to break you.
Call to action:
Take a moment and ask yourself: Is there anyone I am still holding captive in my heart because of what they did to me? What chain could break in my life if I chose prayer over bitterness? If this spoke to you, share your thoughts below or simply declare, “I’m choosing freedom.”
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Ohhhhh you pissed me off!!!
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