How to stop being a failure.
I was standing in front of a foodball table in a dim lit room on an early monday morning. My opponent, a seasoned player. He had played foosball for more than 20 years of his life. I had started playing a couple months back, when I had joined this new job. In fact, my opponent/my friend had taught me how to play it in the first place. The problem now was that I wanted to win. But how could I? He was a pro. 20 years of experience. And I was a newbie... We made a bet, "Loser buys coffee." We both agreed. And, I lost. As expected, how could I win? I said to my friend, "I will beat u one day!" He replied, "One day, but not today." This went on for months. I could never beat him. I would get really close to winning... then lose my focus and end up losing somehow... But, One day something happened. After I lost a match. My friend said something to me. He said, "You know you have the ability to beat me. You have improved a lot. But you don't believe that u can do it. You think just because I have played it for 20 years, it's impossible to beat me. But in reality, you can easily beat me if u wanted to." I said, "But I do want to beat you." "Yes, but you don't think you can beat me today. Do you?", he said. "I doubt it, but I will one day," I replied. He said, "That is not belief. That's a dream. If you want to beat me, you have to believe that you can beat me today - not some day in the future." That day I understood something! The importance of "RIGHT NOW!" "THE PRESENT" So, I took his advice. I started to think to myself that I will beat him now. Every game I played. I played to win that game, in the present, not some day in future. And... 2 days later, something crazy happened. We made a bigger bet. "The loser buys lunch!" I said, "I will win this time." He said, "One day but not today." I said, " I will win now. In this moment." We played, and... After months of losing, I finally WON! And since that day, I have won a lot more, lunches coffees, etc., etc.