Oct '25 • General discussion
Men getting their sh*t together
There has never been a more important time for men to step up to the plate and get their sh*t together.
Now don’t get me wrong, there ARE some solid men out there truly doing their inner work and stepping up to the plate. I know a small handful, and I couldn’t appreciate the example they are setting more.
But the far majority are boys in men’s bodies.
How do boys in men’s bodies act?
1. They have 0 control of their s*xual energy and still letting their carnal desires control them. Let me be super clear here- A) NO woman that has truly done her inner work and desires something healthy will feel safe with ANY man that doesn’t have that energy under control. And B ) there is no excuse to not getting that energy under control.
It’s not easy, but it’s completely possible.
The truth is- the men that don’t simply don’t want to enough. When a man loves something or someone more than his own physical desires he will do the work to become better.
Period. There’s no excuse.
If you’re with someone that refuses to get that sh*t under control- they don’t love you enough to do the work. The truth hurts sometimes but it’s the truth.
2. They consistently avoid uncomfortable conversations and get defensive and angry when faced with one. This is such a BS weak move, and it comes from arrogance and and unwillingness to look at parts of himself he needs to work on.
If this is happening- I highly suggest you call him out on it, and if he takes action to change it, great. If he doesn’t- get out of there.
Let me be clear- it’s NOT GOING TO CHANGE OR GET BETTER, unless he actually takes accountability, and actually takes action to change the response.
Don’t fool yourself into falling in love with potential, false promises, or worse manipulation.
3. He still lives in a victim mindset. The path of a truly impactful healthy man in his divine masculine energy is NOT EASY- and there’s simply no room to live in a victim place. If he still thinks he’s a victim of his past, society, or anything externally then he has 0 power to change his life.
And again, it’s an excuse to not do the harder things work he’s avoiding. A Bs excuse of a boy living in a man’s body. NOTHING will change in his life until he truly takes accountability for what he doesn’t like in his life, then takes action to change it.
4. Refuses to admit when he’s wrong or makes a mistake. Brothers- you want a woman’s respect? Truly? It’s not going to come from being perfect and being right. It will come deeply and naturally from you being able to admit the error of your ways or thought process, and a true intention to learn and grow from the mistake.
Arrogance is one of the greatest downfalls of the modern man.
I’m not saying expect perfection by any means. Good men struggle with these things from time to time, but there’s a difference between slipping up, owning it and learning from it, and staying stuck on the same damn patterns and lessons and refusing to see the role you’re playing in it.
Sisters- you don’t deserve any of the above bullshit- and there ARE GOOD MEN that will treat you the way you deserve and want to grow WITH YOU.
Sometimes a man’s greatest wake up call is losing that which he may be taking for granted.
End of my little rant/ thought post.
Having a daughter has made me even more hyper aware of the shitty state of feminized men in the western world.
Lastly, THANK YOU to the brothers that are truly doing the work, and dedicating themselves to a higher purpose and relationship with God.
Keep being the example and the lighthouse , we need more of them.
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Men getting their sh*t together
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