21d • General discussion
If Your Life Was a Movie…
Reflection:
- If you watched your life from the outside… what would stand out immediately?
- What would you feel watching it?
- Where would you want the character (you) to make a different choice?
Mirror Prompt:
“Where am I aware… but still choosing the same thing?”
This is such a powerful reflection. I did this reflection a few weeks ago and here are my aha moments.
Immediately what stood out to me is I had allowed some autopilot predictable patterns to return into my days. For one my boys are getting older and in a transition from no longer being kids, but young men. Reflecting on question one gave me perspective. I had been living in the pattern of Mom taking care of kids. That is not who I am nor where I am in life. I am Mom transforming kids into young resourceful men.
Question 2: Would I watch the movie of Mom taking care of kids everyday? My Answer is a resounding no. It is an exhausting movie that is braced for arguments, fights and constant push back from my two boys as I kindly ask them to step into taking responsibility for themselves.
Question 3: Where would I like "me the character" to make a different choice? Immediately I would chose to recognize my new role in my two boys life. I would have a heart felt difficult conversation to each of my boys separately. I would connect to each of my sons with the transition of kid to young man themes that are relevant to each of them. I would start with one thing that exhausts me the most to watch in this movie and play out each day. I would embrace the uncomfortable conversation and reactions, and stay resolute in my decision to step into this transition phase of being a Mom.
My awareness came that this was a needed change when I started to recognize a subtle phrase reappear into my consciousness. "It is easier if I do it." That one statement has been the non truth of my existence, yet a lived one that shaped not just how I am a Mom, but how I operate in all that I do in life. It has never served me and provided the flow and freedom I seek. It has always locked me into doing everything and having no fun. It is one I thought I had conquered, but the truth is we never conquer the belief, the truth is we form a new relationship with it. We form a new understanding and a new awareness. The truth is to stay aware of the belief popping up and the choice we have to believing it or choosing something different. To not give it weight, and power, or to let it slide this time and deal with it later. The funny thing about later is it sneaks into being your now.
I would love to hear your reflections if you feel called to share. It has been my greatest tool in my own transformation. Sharing has allowed me to bring things to the light and they no longer have a hold on me. They no longer are shameful, repress me, bring guilt, hold old rejections, allow me to deny, or feel separate from others. It is funny how our most deepest wound is a paradox. For me it was the wound of not being seen for who I am. However, to be seen one must allow others to authentically see them.
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