We create a lot of emotional stress for ourselves when we focus on what others are not providing for us or to us. Are there people in your life right now who you feel do not support you? What if you released the idea that they need to be a certain way for you and you just believed and supported yourself?

The easiest, most convenient and most effective technique and practice for regulating your nervous system is the slow breath. I mean, you're already breathing - just switch it up a little bit and your nervous system will thank you! Our bodies are stressed even though we may not feel it as a "feeling". Practicing the slow breath frequently and consistently is the first step in bringing regulation to your stressed out systems. Do it when you're not feeling stressed. Do it when you are feeling overwhelmed. Do you it when you wake up. Do it when you sit on the toilet. Do it in the shower. Do it when you are ready to sleep. Do it when you are driving. Do it in the line at the grocery store. Do it so often it just becomes part of your everyday. Vagus Nerve stimulation is all the rage these days - everyone has a device to sell but what if you could do all of that with just your breath? Sounds too simple but I assure you, it's true - you can. And you must. Inhale slowly - hold for a couple of seconds - exhale (slow and longer than the inhale) - hold at the bottom for a couple of seconds. Repeat. https://nhahealth.com/longer-exhalations-are-an-easy-way-to-hack-your-vagus-nerve/

10 years ago I was an exhausted, burned out mother to a son with autism and other medical complexities. I was a "married single parent" meaning I was doing all of the work and carrying all of the mental load. Life felt really hard and I kind of hated it. I loved my son obviously but I hated life. So I tried harder to make everything better and I ended up putting myself into a state of burnout. My nervous system was shot and I didn't really hate life anymore but that's because I just didn't really feel anything. I felt like I was just suspended in space, watching life go by and I felt rather numb about all of that. Luckily, I recognized what was going on with my nervous system (chronic stress) and how that was affecting my brain and how that was all affecting my body and I started applying all of the things I knew about balancing the nervous system to myself AS A FORM OF SELF LOVE. I had spent years supporting my son's nervous system and I made a common mistake - I didn't do all of those things for myself. It took quite a while to figure out the most effective strategies and techniques considering my life was still chaotic and demanding. It also took some deep SELF LOVE work to allow myself the privilege of health and happiness. Ultimately the key is this: INTENTIONAL ACTION + CONSISTENCY + TIME = OUTCOME We're not floundering because we don't know what to do. We need a system in doing "the things" and support in utilizing that system. Simple solutions exist for complicated situations. But that simplicity requires consistency and time. There is no silver bullet for turning your nervous system around and creating expansion. Are you ready to breathe in your new life?