9h • General discussion
How do you deal with bullies?
In the course ”What is a Witch?” we learned about two big words, sovereignty and autonomy, and how when you understand the meaning of these two things and live as a sovereign and autonomous person, you don’t usually fit into people’s expectations. Have you ever heard the saying “dance to the beat of your own drum?”🥁
That’s what I’m talking about! Being brave and sure enough of who you are to be YOU! But some people only see that as ‘different’. Not like them. Not like most. Not like everyone else. And being uniquely you isn’t always easy. In that course we also talked about listening to your intuition and not just following along with the crowd and how sometimes that’s what keeps you out of trouble. How your intuition can help you make the choice that’s right for you, even if it means being the only one doing it.
Well, today my son is dealing with this very thing. He has a friend who he has known since they were babies and all of a sudden that friend started making some bad decisions with a group of other kids and my son had to take a step back from their friendship to make better choices than the ones his friend was making. So instead of following along with crowd, he excused himself and he chose not to be around that group of kids anymore. Now his friend has turned into a bit of a bully.
This gives us a chance to see an example of how the choices we make mold who we are. Because my son’s friend is a good boy in his heart. And I think what the choices he’s making are really showing us is that he doesn’t know how to handle his own hurt feelings or anger. He is a kid, just like my son. Just like you. But he is choosing to be a bully for some reason, and so he is a bully. I think this is the same for all bullies. So how DO you deal with a bully? Well….
First, always follow your intuition. Now here’s my advice.
🌲 Be like a tree in a storm.
1) Keep your roots strong. Know who you are, know who loves you and know who you can trust. That is your strength.
2) Stand tall. Keep your head high. Be proud of who you are. Love yourself. Don’t change and don’t apologize for being you. There is nothing wrong with you.
3) Do not become the storm. Do not let someone else’s bad behavior become an excuse for you to behave badly.
4) Know when to ask for help.
Remember Little Witches, “I can be kind without being weak. I can be brave without being mean. My voice matters, I give respect and I deserve it in return.” Being kind doesn’t mean you have to be a doormat. You can be kind and still have boundaries, and no one gets to decide where those boundaries are but you. You never have to earn respect, respect should always be given. You don’t have to like someone to respect them. You don’t have BE like someone or ACT like someone to deserve respect. You can be colorful! You can dress different! You can look different talk different walk different think different BE DIFFERENT! You can be weird! I love weird people! You can be anything you want and you still deserve respect. If someone doesn’t respect you it’s not because there is something wrong with you it’s because there is something wrong with them. And you know what? The people who follow the crowd, who just do what’s popular and trendy, they aren’t the kind who set the trends. The ones who set the trends are the ones who are different. Remember that too my Little Witches.
If you need a safe space to talk about something like this come on in and vent here. Maybe we can help each other.
1
0 comments
How do you deal with bullies?
skool.com/schoolforlittlewitches
Discover the magic and medicine of plants in this kid focused class, where families learn together and wellness grows naturally.
Leaderboard (30-day)
1
+1
Powered by