Some days I swear modern parenting is just one giant emotional CrossFit class. I’m out here trying to heal childhood wounds, rewire my nervous system, and become a calmer version of myself… while my 20-month-old is in his “push everything and everyone” era and having full-body meltdowns because I dared to break his banana in half, or serve his food the wrong way. This is the part no one prepared us for, healing backwards while parenting forwards. Breaking cycles while trying not to lose your shit in the middle of the living room. Teaching calm while your toddler walks around the house with a beer gut saying “no” And still… god, the heart in it. The way he looks at me after a storm like I’m still his safest place. The way I’m learning patience, softness, and strength I didn’t even know I had. The way we’re both rewiring together him toward stability, me away from survival. It’s chaotic, emotional, messy, unfiltered, and honestly? Kinda magical. Because every day I choose to try again. Every day we grow a little. Every day I’m breaking cycles he’ll never have to heal from. Fuck it’s hard work, The hardest, loudest, most rewarding work I’ll ever do.

Feeding our babies is one of the most beautiful, complicated, emotional journeys we go through and somehow we’re all made to feel like we’re doing it wrong. Whether you breastfed, formula-fed, pumped, topped up, mixed fed, tried everything, or changed plans halfway through… your story matters. Your feelings matter. Your baby being loved and nourished is what actually counts. I’d love to hear your experience the real, messy, honest version. ✨ Share it in the comments if you’re comfortable ✨ Or send me a private message if you’d rather keep it between us No judgement. No “shoulds.” Just mums supporting mums, however your feeding journey looked. We don’t heal by pretending we’re fine we heal by talking about the things no one warned us about. I’m here for it, and I’m here for you. 💛

I’m a solo, full-time mum raising my little human with more love, strength and resilience than I ever expected to have. I work full-time in Out of Home Care, and I’m also a registered foster carer supporting kids who’ve lived through more than most adults ever will. For the past 3 years I’ve been doing in-house foster care, and for over 4 years I’ve worked with high-risk, traumatised children. My job isn’t just a job… it’s heart work. It’s healing, holding, guiding, and showing up, even on the days that feel impossibly heavy. I’ve survived a DV relationship. I’ve battled and overcome post-natal depression. I’ve had my “community” taken away and I’ve rebuilt my life from the ground up. I’m still here. Still standing. Still loving hard. Still raising my son with intention, courage and joy. Creating this community is about giving mums something they can actually relate to because at the end of the day, there’s no such thing as “knowing it all.” We figure it out together. We learn, unlearn and grow side-by-side. Real Mum Energy is my space to share it all: the truth, the growth, the messy moments, the magic, and the strength that comes from choosing yourself and your child over and over again. If you’re a mum who’s walked through fire… If you’re a mum who’s still finding her feet… If you’re a mum who’s doing her best, even when it doesn’t feel like enough, you’re welcome here. This is community. This is connection. This is real.

I created this community because being a mum today is… a lot. Amazing, exhausting, hilarious, confusing and emotional all of it at once. And we deserve a place that feels safe, calm, supportive and real. I’m a solo mum who’s learned a lot the hard way. I’ve cried on the floor, Googled at 2am, dealt with mum guilt, held boundaries, broken boundaries, and rebuilt myself again and again. My son has taught me more about life than any book ever could patience, love, fear, courage, resilience, healing and growth. This space is here so none of us have to pretend or feel alone. Ask questions, share your stories, vent, laugh, cry whatever motherhood looks like for you, it’s welcome here. You’re safe. You’re supported. You’re seen. And I’m so proud to build this community with you. 🤍✨