It can sometimes feel like the opposite, but when someone is complaining about something we've done - it is because they believe in us. And they see a potential future that would be better for everyone, most of all ourselves. So how do you transform a complaint into that vision?

The finale in this 10-part series on Appreciation. What did you appreciate most about these videos? Let us know!

Now that we have the concepts down - here's an "advanced" approach, so you can transform your dynamic even if your partner doesn't change at all...

But wait a minute. Is there such a thing as a healthy complaint?

There's more here than just advice on how to get more Appreciation. What would be possible in your relationship if you converted all complaints to visions and all defense to acknowledgments?