Something I hear so often from clients and other facilitators is that healing is a lifetime journey. My big question to this is why? Is there not a solid goalpost for what healing looks like? Or is this journey a scam? Healing should have an end or its not healing. IT is something else. Without the shift from the healing portion of our life's journey to the post traumatic growth portion we keep circling back to the pre-existing patterns because there is nothing out in from of them yet. This is a crucial moment in a client's journey when they turn around and go... Ok now what? Children are offered numerous different entry points to learning their preferences... What they like and don't like. They try things. They quit things and we take that as the journey to finding out what they like. As adults we call this something else. It is important to support this learning with our clients. So what if you try it and don't like it. Now you know. What do you want to explore next. WE build curiosity!

What do you currently do when a client hits a trauma loop that does not respond to mindset, somatic tools, or talk-based processing?

Cherie, I love your broken mirror imagery. It's a metaphor that speaks deeply to me as well. I created this spiral mosaic of broken-mirror shards in 2020. There's a whole story behind it, because the mirror spontaneously broke itself the moment I uttered the words to my daughter two rooms away: "When you make physical appearance your God, bad things happen." SMASH! We jumped, could not believe it! AS I was sweeping up the shards, I decided I could not throw them away and instead spent a month making this. It became a deeply meaningful metaphor of healing from a lifetime of exposure to narcissists and narcissistic abuse.