DrummEr IntErvEntion!

I am worried about my drummer who founded the tribute band we are in with me in '19, seems to be overwhelmed with his life, & NOT aware of it!

It's incredibly frustrating as it TOOK me 3 years to find him!

HE got together with this lady not long after we started playing, who's marriage had broken up BEFORE she gave birth to her daughter in late '19.

It turns out he Ended up with a huge tax debt he was not aware of, so his work took precedence to pay it off! (NOT begrudging that!) in '24 I had a really GOOD keyboardist interested in joining us. WE only usually do monthly rehearsals, & I organised 8 that year. HE cancelled about 6 of them and forgot a few! Needless to say that dude bailed! (CAN'T say I blame him!) WE got another good player that's a bit Younger, but he too is a bit disappointed! The last rehearsal we had was in March!

NOW! DuE to family/living arrangements, his step 'daughter' , spends 2 w/Es a month with her father & 2 with her mum & my drummer! (They are NOT married, but ARE Engaged...)The PROBLEM is, when the girl is at home with them, he CAN'T rehearse with us, cos she NEEDS him to help look after her, but can only do PAID gigs, but practice or jam nights for fun is out of the question!

Seriously? CAN'T she look after 1, 7 y/o girl on her own for a few hrs?

This has caused probs trying to book rehearsal dates. I ask him for dates, when he's free, he says 'I'll get back to you', but never does! His problem is, he tries to please Every1, and gets snowed under!

I also feel he is being EXPLOITED by her somewhat!

What dos Every1 Else think?

The rem 3 of us, are going to have a practice to backing tracks, and think also do a conference call with 3 of us on the phone to him, cos my nudging doesn't seem to resonate with him, but from all 3 of us it MIGHT make it sink in!

OTHERWISE, I will seriously HAVE to look at other drummers!

Thanks for listening/reading!

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DrummEr IntErvEntion!