for a long time, I believed arrogant people were full of themselves.
now i see something different.
i see arrogance grows from ignorance - not ignorance as an insult, but as a forgetting. a forgetting of who we are beneath titles, opinions, achievements and identities.
when we lose the connection to ourselves, fear takes over.
fear of not being enough. fear of being wrong. fear of losing control fear and not being seen.
arrogance becomes the mask that protects those fears. it creates the illusion of certainty. it needs to be right. it needs to defend. it needs to convince.
but all of that is someone who has forgotten the peace and joy that already lives within them.
the strange thing is that once fear enters, we stop seeing reality. we only see our projection of it.
if i believe people can’t be trusted, that’s what i’ll notice. if i believe the world is against me, i’ll see evidence everywhere. my mind creates a story and then I spend time proving it true.
that is why two people can experience the exact same moment and walk away with completely different realities.
the pause changes everything.
when i pause, the stories end. i remember i don’t have to defend who i am because i already know who i am.
from that place, i see people differently.
i see that behind anger is pain. behind arrogance is fear. behind certainty is someone longing for safety.
and the more i return to myself, the more i feel at peace.
that is what i l believe we’re all searching for, not for a different world, but a different way of seeing it.
and all it takes to do that is a pause.