Sep 16 • General discussion
Second part of the practice
Alright everyone. Here is the second part of this challenge. After 14 days of saying, “NO” to people, places and things. You may have discovered a pattern. The pattern is several narratives or feelings that you’ve experienced after saying NO.
Step.1 Write down in a notebook, what those narratives or feelings are that have been consistent.
Example: Every time I said NO, I heard a narrative of, “ They not gon like you or I’ll get a feeling of wanting to take it back. Write this down.
Step.2 Write a letter to your people pleaser or this narratives and ask a series of questions to discover the root of your people pleaser. These narratives will support you in your practice.
Step.3 How to write the letter:
On a piece of paper, begin a conversation with your people pleaser by using your dominant hand and your people pleaser (inner child) will respond back to you with the less dominant hand. When asking questions; allow your intuition to be your guidance.
Beginner questions:
1. How old are you?
2. When did you start people pleasing?
3. Why did you start people pleasing?
4. What do you need to stop people pleasing?
5. What parent created your people-pleasing identity?
Example:
(Using my dominant hand which is my right hand.)
1. With my right hand: I write the first question: I want to connect with my people pleaser, how old are you?
Then, take a deep breath and exhale. Remain present, and allow any inclinations, sensations, or verbal responses to come through.
2. Next, switch the pen or pencil to the less dominate hand and write back a response. This is all intuitive. Allow the responses to come.
3. Continue to write back and forward with each other until you discover the route of your people pleasing.
4. Next, tell your Innerchild. They no longer have to people-please to feel safe. Give them reassurance and let them know that they’re safe, protected, and accepted. Share any form of healing language to let them know they can let go of this identity.
- Do this for the next 7 days. Let me know when you have completed this exercise. So, we can complete the entire practice. Please respond, “finished.” When you are done.
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Second part of the practice
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