4d (edited) • Reflection
Speaking Up
The last few days I have been contemplating speaking up to my father in law about something that has been plaguing me for years. It is about power and authority because we are almost ready to sign a new lease together and I wanted to get some things on the table before that. Because this is something I have dealt with my entire life from childhood with parents and now the last few years with him living together. I feel the need to speak up for myself more. So I did a tarot reading for some guidance from source/spirit guides and it showed a happy family together and good things. Then I had a talk with my husband saying I need to know that he will have my back if I do this and after some back and forth he agreed.
Well today an opportunity presented itself when my father in law was drinking, he was acting like what many would call a "spoiled toddler" 😆 again saying "get me this, get me that, i want it" etc. So i spoke up. I told him just to be clear i'm willing to help him but I am not his slave. That he does not get to have power and authority over me. It turned into an argument that lasted maybe an hour. He pushed back with some resistance and there was some lack of accountability which I was kind of expecting.I said that we are part of a team in an equal partnership, all contributing in different ways. He started making it about money over love family and contributions, which I did not agree with (he often does this and says we don't contribute because we don't contribute as much in money and we don't have children yet). I told him that it's his demanding tone that pushes people away. And I have shown him that I'm willing to help him without a lot of expectations and we contribute in many other ways as well as money. He brought my husband into the conversation and he did defend me like he said he would.
But it actually ended on a hug and good terms with my father in law so I think at least I hope I got through to him on some level. i believe it did because the guidance I got earlier was showing good things coming from this. I was afraid but I chose to do it anyway.
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