You can't always dictate everything! Actually, you don't even want to ALWAYS dictate everything! You want your kids to make decisions, you want them to be responsible and they can only do that if you allow them the grace and the space to do that. Let them pick the color for their room decor, let them choose the music on the way to school or to the event that your riding to in the car together, let them decide what to watch for family movie night. If you let them choose small decisions and to make up their own mind, they won't feel like you're ALWAYS telling them what to do. It will help, trust me on this one. Let the kids make some decisions and watch resentment melt away. Tell me in the comments what is something that you'll let your kids decide today or this week?