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Child trauma
Your child isn't giving you a hard time. They're having a hard time.
When a child who has experienced trauma melts down, shuts down, or lashes out. That's not defiance. That's a nervous system that learned to protect itself.
That hypervigilance at bedtime? It kept them safe once.
That explosive reaction to a small change? Unpredictability used to be dangerous.
That refusal to make eye contact? Sometimes being seen meant being targeted.
These aren't behaviors to punish. They're survival strategies that haven't gotten the memo that things are different now.
What helps:
🤎 Predictability over perfection
🤎 Connection before correction
🤎 Naming what you see without judgment "Your body seems really activated right now"
🤎 Regulating yourself first so they can borrow your calm
Healing doesn't happen through consequences. It happens through safety …repeated, boring, consistent safety.
You don't have to be a perfect parent. You just have to be a safe one.
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