Task: Codependency Self-Assessment & Awareness Exercise Purpose: To help you identify where codependent patterns show up in your thoughts, behaviors, and relationships—without shame or self-judgment. Instructions Read each section slowly. Answer honestly in writing. Awareness is the goal, not perfection. 1. Relationship Patterns Check all that apply: - ☐ I feel responsible for other people’s emotions - ☐ I stay silent to avoid conflict - ☐ I fear abandonment more than disrespect - ☐ I over-give hoping to be appreciated - ☐ I feel anxious when someone pulls away Reflection: Which pattern shows up most in your life right now? 2. Boundaries & Self-Abandonment - Do I say “yes” when I want to say “no”? - Do I feel guilty when I prioritize myself? - Do I ignore my needs to keep peace? Write: One recent situation where you abandoned yourself. 3. Identity & Self-Worth - Who am I outside of relationships or being needed? - How do I measure my value? - What am I afraid would happen if I stopped over-functioning? 4. Action Step Choose one boundary you will practice this week (small but real). Optional Book Companion Codependent No More – Melody Beattie Read 1 chapter and journal: What part of this chapter felt uncomfortable or familiar—and why?