Dec '24 • 🥰 Dating
🧾 The 9 Iron Rules Of Rollo Tomassi
Most guys in this space are familiar with Rollo Tomassi, the godfather of the Red Pill. If you read his first book, The Rational Male, you might remember the nine iron rules he establishes to guide our interactions with women.
Here is a condensed version of these rules and even though these could be easily found all over the Internet, I think it would be valuable to use this post not just as a reminder of them but also as a space for discussion about them.
A few questions you could share your thoughts on are:
- Which do you think is the most important rule and why?
- Is there any rule you do not agree with? Why?
- Is there any rule that you think no longer applies today compared to when it was written?
- What other rules would you add to the list? Which would you remove?
Without any further ado, here are the 9 Iron Rules of Rollo Tomassi:
Rule 1 – Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of whose frame in which you are operating. Always control the frame, but resist giving the impression that you are controlling the frame.
Rule 2 – Never, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any details of your sexual experience with them to a current lover.
Rule 3 – Women will break rules for Alpha but will make hoops for Beta. Genuine desire is very important for any kind of relationship.
Rule 4 – Never live with women you are not married to or are not planning to get married in the next six months.
Rule 5 – Never allow women to be in control of the birth.
Rule 6 – Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in a way that a man expects to be loved. This accurately describes a pervasive nihilism that men must either confront or be driven insane in denial for the rest of their lives when they come to terms with the disillusionment.
Rule 7 – Moving ahead will have a much higher value than getting back into a broken relationship.
Rule 8 – Let the woman decide why she wouldn’t fuck you, never do it for her.
Rule 9 – Never self-deprecate under any circumstances. This is a kiss of death that you self-initiate and is the antithesis of the Prize Mentality. Once you’ve accepted yourself and presented yourself as a complete douche, there is no going back to confidence with a woman. Never appeal to a woman’s sympathies. Her sympathies are given by her own volition, never when they are begged for. Nothing kills arousal like pity. Even if you don’t consider yourself pathetic, it never serves your best interest to paint yourself pathetic. Self-deprecation is a misguided tool for the AFC and not something that would even occur to an Alpha.
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🧾 The 9 Iron Rules Of Rollo Tomassi
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