7d • General discussion
Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, Match, E-Harmony, FB Dating, OK Cupid?
There is no shortage of dating apps out there, I have tried most of them. I have found the most success with matching on Hinge and Bumble. Below is a breakdown of what I think about the apps I have tried...
Tinder - The first big one on the market and the original swipe app. My first time around with Tinder about 10 years ago was very successful. It had the reputation as a hookup site which it pretty much lived up to. The expectation was that if you were here, you wanted a sexual partner. Now I find that Tinder is where the low value people go, and although it has been over 6 months since I was on it, it was riddled with bots, trans, and sock puppet accounts. I think the vibe is still that it is a hookup app. Tread lightly and carefully here.
Match and E-Harmony - Although it has been a while since I had a profile on either of these two I still think these are the leaders for finding a long term partner since the profile interview process is thorough and you can very granularly filter what you are seeking. Don't expect quick hookups here. Women who go through the effort of joining are intentional about finding a partner so the conversation typically is around relationship criteria for a long term partner. If you are super intentional about finding a long term partner, go here and have patience. You don't need the skills taught here, you just need to be honest and authentic and she will appear. The free version (if they still exist) don't get you very far so be prepared to pay. Focus on your growth, King.
Facebook dating - I have heard success stories here but I have never joined. Women like it since she can vet you easier if you have mutual friends. There's an immediate connection and conversation starter. I removed all things FB and IG (except for WhatsApp) from my phone so for some reason I don't want to use this service. Go for it! I'd love to hear feedback.
OK Cupid - Good for major metropolitan areas since there doesn't seem to be the overall volume of profiles here. I was only on it for a short while and I noticed there were profiles for many of the serial daters I recognized from the other apps. Covering the bases I reckon. If you don't have success with any of the others it may be worth a try. Go for it.
Bee App - I liked Bee. Not necessarily for matches but for the memes and community. Message boards and interaction with people all over the world. Men and women can join in public discussions together around a topic post or general interest areas. You might match with a woman half way around the globe. And WhatsApp is your level up method for chatting off app. It's fun, but might become a distraction from your goal of meeting someone in real life.
Bumble - This one is known for safety and letting women make the first move after you match. I like the swipe left and right ease so it is low effort to pick matches. Women here seem more intentional for relationship rather than hookups. You can message a profile before swiping but messages are very limited with the free account (and daily like limits are fairly low). Women have to put in a bit more effort since they are the first to respond to a match. Bumble also has connections (BIZZ) and BFF modes if you need a break from matching women. Find contacts in an interest area, make friends...I got a podcast episode guest out of it. Bonus is the call and video chat feature built in. This provides a way to level up and vet each other before giving out personal contact information. Bumble is in my top two apps to try first. Get to buzzing you busy bee!
Hinge - My current favorite. You will find many of the women you see here on Bumble as well. The coolest thing about Hinge is that you can comment on any part of a profile to signal interest. It takes a bit more thought and effort than swiping right, but a well crafted, interesting or witty comment on something she included can be the best conversation starter. Like most apps, the free version has a daily like limit. The featured picks is nice where you can give a rose (1 per week on the free version) to a profile showing high interest. These suggestions are more closely aligned to your stated preferences. The messaging is basic but does have a heart feature to like a comment. Leveling up means getting personal contact info outside of the app and may mean some additional effort on your end to vet her further.
Others? I went on the Adult hookup site (don't even remember its name) for a day to see what that was and pretty much needed a shower after. Low value...freaks, poly, queer, trans, fetish...if that's your thing, go for it, but I won't call you King.
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Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, Match, E-Harmony, FB Dating, OK Cupid?
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