Welcome to Death Club
I'm Lou, and I'm really glad you're here.
This is a place to talk about death, dying and grief openly, without the flinching, the euphemisms, or the quiet way the world usually asks us to carry it alone.
My daughter Honey was born and died in the same moment. That changed everything about how I live, and it's why I'm here. I don't have a fixed map for this. I'm walking it too. What I've got is my own story and the things that have helped me, breath, ritual, honest conversation, and a room I went looking for and couldn't find, so I'm building it. These aren't answers. They're ways of listening.
You don't need to be in deep grief, or any grief at all, to belong here. Maybe someone you love has died. Maybe you're watching it come. Maybe you're grieving something that doesn't have a name yet. Or maybe you're death curious, nothing to name, just drawn to look at death honestly instead of away. All of it belongs.
And it's fine to be uncomfortable here. To not have the right words, or any words. To not know why you're drawn to this, only that you are. You don't need to arrive sure of your ideas or theories or what you believe. Unsure is welcome too.
What im building inside:
- Breathwork -the practice that taught me to stay with what's hard instead of turning from it. A tool for living, whether you're in grief or not.
- Rituals - simple practices for tending the bonds that don't end when someone dies.
- Reflections and prompts - honest invitations to sit with grief, love and change.
- The monthly gathering - where we come together and talk openly about the things most rooms won't hold.
- And each other - somewhere to be witnessed, and to witness someone else.
Nothing here is too dark to say. You don't need to be over anything. You just need to be willing to be with it.
Come exactly as you are.
If you're new, introduce yourself below - your name, and one true thing about where you are right now. No need to explain or tidy it. However you arrive is right