Kettle & Candle on Skool – Community Guidelines

This is a community for honest, tender conversations about life, death, grief, and legacy. To keep it safe and usable for everyone, we agree to the following:

👉1. Lead with kindness and respect

No harassment, bullying, shaming, or personal attacks.
No hate speech or discrimination of any kind (race, gender, sexuality, religion, politics, age, ability, etc.).
Disagree with ideas, not with people.

👉2. Confidentiality is sacred

What is shared here, stays here.
Do not share someone else’s story, screenshots, or posts outside the community without explicit permission.
Remove identifying details if you’re sharing an example in a teaching context.

👉3. This is not medical, legal, financial, or mental health advice

Nothing in this community replaces professional medical, legal, financial, or mental health care.
You may share your experience (“What helped me was…”), but do not tell others what they must do.
Do not diagnose, prescribe, or offer step-by-step instructions for treatment, medications, or legal actions.

👉4. Crisis and safety

This community is not a crisis service.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger or thinking about harming themselves or others, contact local emergency services or a crisis hotline in your area right away.
You may say, “I’m having a hard time,” but please avoid graphic details of self-harm, suicide, or violence.

👉5. Speak from your own experience

Use “I” language. Share your own story, beliefs, and questions.
We honor many spiritual, religious, and philosophical perspectives here.
No preaching, converting, or insisting that your belief is the only “right” way.

👉6. Gentle with the details

We talk about death, dying, and grief—but we don’t need gore.
Avoid graphic medical descriptions, violent detail, or anything likely to be traumatizing.
When in doubt, keep it simple and respectful.

👉7. Boundaries, DMs, and emotional labor

Do not pressure other members for 1:1 support, therapy, or “fixing.”
Ask before moving a conversation into private messages.
If you are a professional (therapist, doula, attorney, etc.), do not solicit clients or give individualized professional advice here.

👉8. No spam or unapproved promotion

No pitching, MLMs, or unrelated promotions.
You may only share offerings, events, or links if they are clearly relevant and allowed by Pam / moderators.
When in doubt, ask before posting.

👉9. Protect your own privacy

Share at the level that feels safe and appropriate for you.
Avoid posting addresses, phone numbers, legal case details, or other sensitive information.
Remember: this is a community space, not a private journal.

👉10. Follow host and moderator guidance

Pam and designated moderators may edit, move, or remove posts that don’t align with these guidelines.
Members who repeatedly disregard the rules may be removed to protect the community.
If you see something concerning, report it to a moderator rather than trying to police it yourself.

How to get help inside the community

For content or behavior concerns: message Pam or a moderator.
For tech/platform issues: use Skool’s support or post briefly in the community.
For emotional support: share gently, ask for what you need, and remember others are human beings with limits too.

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Kettle And Candle

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Kettle and Candle is where we pour tea, name our grief, and light the way to living, loving, and leaving with intention—together.

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