Your brain isn't a camera. It's an editor. Every experience you have gets run through a filter made up of your past memories, your beliefs, and the stories you've been telling yourself for years — and that filtered version is what you call "reality." Not the raw event. The interpretation of it.
This is why two people can live through the exact same moment and walk away with completely different takeaways. Neither of them is lying. They're just running different software. The work isn't about changing what's happening out there — it's about getting honest about the program running on the inside.