17d • General discussion
Welcome to this community, let’s feel and grow rich together!
Thinking is always about the future or the past.
Feeling is always about the now.
You cannot feel what’s in the future. Sure you can feel what you’ve felt before when reliving a memory or you can feel a certain way about a future event, but you’re feeling now.
You can also think about now, but it will only keep you at a distance from the present moment. Give it a try. What can you think up about your present moment. It’s all projection of your mind on the moment, it’s not the actual experience you’re describing. Or you’re listing experiences (feeling), which is good, you’re entering the now!
Why is this important?
In 2018 I found out about goal setting. I learned that when you set goals, you’re probably going to reach them. So I started changing my life, quite fast. I figured the most important areas of my life were wealth, health and happiness. So I started setting goals around those aspects.
Examples were
Wealth: I’ll earn €100K gross per year before 31/12/2019
Health: I’ll to weigh 75 kilograms with a fat percentage of 15%
Happiness: I’ll journal about 5 things I’m grateful for every day of 2018
And for mysterious reasons most of my goals became reality, usually on time or a little bit later. In 2020 for example I had a health goal that was very challenging.
I said I was going to work out 5 times a week, and weigh 75 kg with a 12% fat percentage. Challenging because I like food and even though I like working out I also enjoy not working out.
I usually set my goals late December for the year to come. It was already March and I had hardly been working out, if anything I gained weight and my fat percentage went up.
But then something big happened to support this goal, COVID-19. My gym closed and all I had was a playground close by that also had some bars that could be used for calisthenics. I made a new friend that was already doing calisthenics and within months I reached my goal and beyond. I was able to do over 20 pull-ups, 10 muscle-ups, human flags and a lot of other cool stuff. I felt great and strong.
Rewind, just before March I thought is this going to be one of those years. I set goals, do nothing and next year I set the same goal. It wasn’t.
Anyway, I found out about goal setting and in all of those aspects I was progressing. If you would ask me if I was getting happier, I would have undoubtedly said YES. The feeling of progress is essential to feeling happy and valuable as a human being. I was progressing in areas that felt like they gave me value. I was becoming someone!
Fast forward a few years of successful goal setting, I learned something new. In order to really make fast progress, you need a coach. Don’t tell me twice, I decided I wanted a coach. I even set a goal for it. Again in a mystical way a coach came upon my path. I was doom scrolling on LinkedIn, someone in my network had liked a post from a certain coach, I gave it a heart-like. She sent me a DM saying hey anything I can help you with? I said I think I’m fine. She said we can do a free exploratory call. I said why not.
Fast forward to the first session, I cried for 45 minutes and opened up for the first time after years (decades?) of suppression. I felt after a long time of not feeling anything at all.
I thought this coach was going to help me build more wealth. Eventually she did, but it started with her saying I think you have enough. I think there’s more to win elsewhere. I said okay show me then. She invited me to breathe into my belly, I did. She asked me what I experienced. I opened my eyes and explained that I had some tension there and my eyes got a little wet. She asked me why I opened my eyes and invited me to stay with those feelings. I did and she saw that emotion came through and invited me to ‘ride the wave’, to stay. I did and it opened up my first emotional wave. Rough experience, but very freeing.
I experienced that feeling wasn’t always bad, it gave a huge relief and feeling of spaciousness. It wasn’t just my body being annoying or working against me. There was wisdom there. So I decided to pursue the dimension of feeling, even above thinking. And I have grown very rich. Richer than I could have thought, and of course this is about more than money.
I’m beyond excited to meet people who will join me on my journey from just thinking to feeling. From doing to being. From suffering to being at peace.
Introduce yourself in the comments, maybe share a picture or GIF that resonates with you now and we’ll speak soon to feel and grow rich.
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