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I couldn't tell the difference between hungry and stressed. Fasting fixed that.
Longer fasts have taught me one thing I didn't expect: I couldn't tell the difference between being hungry and being stressed. Not until I had no choice but to sit with it long enough to find out which was which.
I didn't used to question hunger if I’m being honest. My approach was something along the lines of: I feel hungry → I eat. Waiting felt… unnecessary. If food was there, if the feeling was there, done.
The realization came during my very first 3-day fast back in 2022.
At the time it felt like I was embarking on some really bizarre niche experiment. Who doesn’t eat for 3 full days?! My culture (Lebanese) is so food-focused I didn’t dare mention the experiment to any of my friends for fear of being subjected to an intervention (flatbread included).
Back to that first fast: by day three a significant portion of what I had been registering as hunger in the days before had just gone quiet. Not suppressed, just registered. Noted. Moving on.
When that happened I didn't know what to make of it.
If I was genuinely hungry on day one, how was I less hungry on day three? And then gradually it started to make sense, because what dropped away wasn't actual physical hunger. It was everything else I had been calling hunger that wasn't.
The expectation of eating at a certain time. The habit and association between a particular hour and food appearing. The reach for a snack when I was stressed, tired, or when some task felt harder than I wanted it to feel.
All of that had been arriving in the same package as real hunger, with the same feeling (kind of) and the same urgency. And I had been treating all of it as the same signal requiring the same response.
Fasting forced me to sit with the sensation long enough to actually tell them apart because then there was no other option. The discomfort was there but the food wasn't, and eventually the discomfort started to reveal itself for what it truly was. The bastard.
On most normal eating days now I can notice the difference. Reaching for something because I'm genuinely hungry feels different from reaching for something because I'm bored, or avoiding something I don't want to think about.
Right now I'm on week four of a five-week series of three-day fasts. Life is pretty busy in the meantime with a first kid due in July, a full coaching schedule, building my online business. I’m just saying, I'm running the experiment in the same conditions most of us are operating in.
And this is exactly the kind of thing I go much deeper on with my 1-1 clients. Not just the fasting mechanics, whether you're doing 16 hours or three days, but the relationship with food underneath it too.
Right now I'm taking on five people at a founder's price before I raise rates.
If any of this resonates and you want to work through it properly, book a discovery call and let's see if there's a good fit.
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I couldn't tell the difference between hungry and stressed. Fasting fixed that.
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